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writes: I told my friend her boyfriend that she is cheating, right now everyone is affected, her family and some friends. what do i need to do? she is so mad. but his boyfriend wants to know everything she did. Reply to this Question
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reader, TRUTHTELLER +, writes (29 July 2010):
TRUTHTELLER is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank u to all answer,
maybe i need to keep in silence.
i know some of my friends think i ruined everything...
i know its bad for her, but its good if her bf know what she's doing. she didn't really care too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): Dont feel bad at all. You were looking out for your friend and that is a great thing. He probably wants to know the details, because its hard for him to believe. She should have never done something like that. She should have told him and you shouldnt have had too. If she is gonna go behind his back and do something like that too him, then they shouldnt be together. He was probably gonna find out, or she was probably gonna do it again. Just stay loyal to your friend and forget about her. She is the one who messed everything up, not you. Just stay close to your friend and explain to him you didnt mean to make everyone upset, its just you care about him and want the best for him. Explain that she should have told him and she didnt, so you had to. You were just being a good loyal friend.
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (29 July 2010):
You don't need to go into details! tell him you just wanted him to know and felt he should that hes your friend! for the rest he needs to confront her about the gritty details i mean what are you suppose to tell him how they kissed how it felt i mean common he knows now so now those 2 need to work it out? and know this for furture reference that something like that is sticky to get in the middle of because no matter how good of friends you are you become the bad person when you get in the middle of something like that and if you are ready to deal w/ it then fine!
Good Luck!
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reader, TRUTHTELLER +, writes (29 July 2010):
TRUTHTELLER is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy plan is not to talk to her, she is really guilty and mad. she told me before that she is just messing around, but his bf in the Philippines is helpless, sad and depress. so i forced myself to told him that he was experiencing love crisis. her family was shock and some of her friends. I Think they don't trust me again. FOR ME, I CAN'T KEEP A VERY BIG LIE.
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reader, ManAfterChrist +, writes (29 July 2010):
 Hmm... well, I think there might have been a better way to handle it. So first off, even though what you did WAS the right thing, apologize to both parties. When that is over, tell her boyfriend he just needs to talk to her about it. "I shouldn't have told you like this in the first place. It wasn't up to me. If you want to know any more information you're going to have to talk to her about it. I'm really sorry. This isn't what I intended, I just felt you had a right to know. I hope everything works out."
That's what I would do. Let me know what your plan is.
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