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writes:I thought Uni was going to be a change for me, a new beginning. It has to a certain point, but these same thought processes keep happening. I'm sick and tired of the same, old issues coming to the surface. It has time to hold myself accountable for these things: - What I have really struggled with is asking people to go out and do things. When there is an opportunity to go out, it becomes to easy for me to just say that I am going to stay home. Everyone should have at least one friend that they can call/text to go hang out with quite easily. -I find myself hanging out with people that don't really challenge me to be a better me, I just hang around them for the sake of wanting and feeling like I truly have friends. - When I meet someone and I think that they could be someone i'd like to hang out with, my insecurities get in the way and I almost completely shut myself off from communicating with them- I can be a really confident person when I want to be, but I have become so negative over the years that it probably comes across as a lack of confidence- I am a busy person, but sometimes I have used things like study and work as an excuse to step out of my comfort zone.- I have met a lot of great people over the years and a lot of them have told me I'm a really nice person, that no one has said a bad word about me, that everyone likes me. Rather than looking at this in a natural, positive way, these things have fed my negativity/insecurity. - I don't really know how to deal with a friendship or relationship that doesn't seem right anymore. I feel like I owe it to these people to stay friends with them even though we hardly speak. Whether it's me trying to hold on to the past or not knowing how to hurt someones feelings, this needs to change.It has taken me a while to understand and come to terms with these things as with any person who experiences life, but I really do want to try and start building meaningful relationships that I can really treasure. I don't know why I keep holding myself back. Any tips/advice would be much appreciated. Cheers.
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reader, Jay R  +, writes (7 November 2014):
Start drinking if you don't drink already, go out in the clubs . Enjoy life , play sports and you will soon have more friends to do things with.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (6 November 2014):
 Pressure can cause depression which it souds like what you re experiencing. Time or a realty check-up. Tell a doctor what you areing maybe you can get some meds to level your thughts out for a while. School pressures can be overwhelming. Best of Luck
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