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writes:I am 35 Years old,Married for 4 years . i my self and my husband still we do not have children in order to have fun in our life .i was very happy with him he's wonderful ,i thought that we had a great sex life together .after a while from our marrage i discovered that he watched porn site and tv .i talked to him and we had a good talk and he promised to stop it. and i thought he is honest... but after one week from our negotiation i discovered that he retured back , again i talked to him ,he asked me to help him in order to stop his bad habit i told him i will try, despite we do sex together 4 times a week ,but unfortunatly i tried but still not useful .yesterday i took a design to stop doing sex with him and i told him that .he was shocked and refused to talk with me or asking me for that , he said that he will never stop that .what can i do??i can't sleep very well i can't eat ,i am tired and have a pain in my heart ,he hurts me too much and i keep crying everyday i can't forget that .
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for help me really i appriciate that
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (26 October 2008):
 My heart would break if a husband I had and loved dearly was having an affair, not if he was watching porn, for goodness sake.
Watching porn IS NOT CHEATING, it's 'curiosity' and it's a 'turn on'.
He's not stopped loving you, so just be grateful for that. Enjoy him, enjoy your life with him, and stop worrying your pretty little head over something that shouldn't be - as you say - 'heartbreaking'.
BigSis
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): must admit I was never any good at watching porn in company. just found it made the situation unreal and slightly embarassing instead of being part of a fantasy. (though I got over this) From what I read somewhere, most men masturbate whether in a relationship with sex on tap all the time, or not. As a man, I'd say I want sex when I want it, and having to put it off can become just downright irritating. I have no idea if your guy thinks four times a week is a little or a lot, but people vary enough it could be either. Might be he wants more even if your content and he says he's happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): I'm 24 years old and been married for 4 years. Over the last years I can not count the ammount of arguments we have been in over this topic and I can promise you he will not stop. Be glad it does not effect your sex life. With my husband he will jerk off instead of having sex with me and I have found later in life he will resent you fot constantly bugging him about it. I don't mean to be harsh but you really only have two options. !- Accept it and or choose to ignore it or 2- move on and find someone who has the same values as you. I can tell you now, i'm young and in my prime and i'm lucky if I have sex once every six months. A big part of that is becuase I yelled too much about him jerking off. Too many arguments, too much resentment.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (25 October 2008):
 People what porn its perfectly normal.
I would be more worried if your sex life is affected or your relationship or if he was keeping it a secret. He is open and honest about watching it so whats the problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): Your answer is confusing. Your husband watches porn, you watch porn as well, but not in "his way". What the hell dose that mean. You watch porn, but you have a problem when he dose it, why? Hypocrite springs to mind. He is in love with you, he has sex with you. What's the problem. I don't understand what is the issue, please update your post. Your husband loves you and has sex with you, what are you upset about?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes i did watch porn ,but not in his way coz i feel it is discusting,as for watching porn with him .i asked him for that many times but he refuesd that.he said that his degnity wouldn't let him do that.i know that he is in love with me but unfortunatly he can't stop from watching porn.i need a solution please
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes i did watch porn ,but not in his way coz i feel it is discusting,
as for watching porn with him .i asked him for that many times but he refuesd that.he said that his degnity wouldn't let him do that.i know that he is in love with me but unfortunatly he can't stop from watching porn.i need a solution please.
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reader, qslady1  +, writes (25 October 2008):
 There is nothing wrong with your husband watching porn. It is not a "bad" habit, but just 1 of those things that he enjoys doing. This does not mean that his feelings for you are any less than what they were before. Withholding sex from him is definitely not the answer! This will only drive him further away from you and give him more reason to spend more time watching porn. Have you tried watching it with him? This may help. That way he won't have to sneak around or try to hide it from you. It is nothing for you to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. It may even help to enhance your sex life together.
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