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writes: I haven't come out yet (except to my Mom), and I don't ever plan on coming out to anyone in my family or anyone near my home.But my other gay friends obviously know, and when I go to visit them, I can be myself and I'm happy. I met a girl I liked- the first one that I ever had a chance with (usually all the girls I like are straight).But they live almost 2000 miles away. So I never get to see her. And everytime I do, I'm too nervous to really get close to her, but I want to SO much...This is all new to me, and I don't really know where to start. I never thought I would come out at all- I thought I'd just be alone my whole life. But this girl changed my mind.But there's so much she will expect because she doesn't know that I'm inexperienced (in every way), and if I tell her, then I might scare her away.I can't really prepare myself here- because I don't know any gay clubs around or anything like that, and it's hard to just get myself out there.I'm going to visit again soon, and I just need some advice on what to do- I don't want to go home hanging my head again... Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): If she genuinely likes you too, she will understand. If she is half decent then she wont judge you theres nothing wrong with being inexperienced, If it was me id take it as a compliment. take care and let us know how you get on
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reader, joby30  +, writes (20 February 2008):
 hi hunny im one of mandy7s gays friends and being a lesbian myself i understand what you mean i was inexperienced once but then i just swallowed my pride and went for it one night i didn't know what to expect from that evening but the next day i new who and what i wanted in my life and that was a women its is strange at first but two mins into anything you do you will now what to do next it all comes natural love ok and it is easy as pie and you wont look back just go for it and if your nervous about telling her that you have no experance then don't tell her cause after 5 mins you will be fine just go for it mate xx i hope it all work's out for you take care Joby xxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): Hunny
That site decided to play up with me so here is another whooooo! what a mission eh hunny hope this helps that would have driven you nuts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!http://www.connexions-direct.com/index.cfm?pid=153&catalogueContentID=377
LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): Hi Hunny
Dont panic ive got this great site for you to read and it offers tons of help to boost your confidence, get great self esteem and its got great advice for gay relationships hunny, Its so hard love my son has been through this I no how hard it is I have many gay friends and Im sure hunny you will be just fine you just need the self confidence and self esteem and there will be no stopping you. Dont be worried about lack of experience we all have to start somewere hun and if she cares about you she will understand.http://www.wiredforhealth.gov.uk/cat.php?catid=940&docid=7402
I hope this helps you sweetheart in time for your trip TAKE CARE HUNNY AND LOTS OF PRAYERS LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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