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writes:So background first...she just got divorced, shy end of things (doesn't initiate and have hard time making decisions), and have a lot of worries going on at the moment.I met this girl, whom i think is perfect. We have a good time together and everything but I don't know if she really likes me and to have a relationship or just using me for the moment.She say one thing but actions mean another. She say she likes me but don't ask questions about me. Say she cares about me but don't trust me enough to have sex (been seeing each other close to 2 months.) She texts others a lot when we go out but hardly text me when she goes out with others, she do text me a lot when she isn't out.It's just little things here and there that are contradicting each other. Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your reply!
That's the hard part...she's shy so she won't initiate anything, plus she's a teacher so she doesn't have money to pay for anything.
(cause where i live it's stupid...the honorable jobs get pay little to nothing; teachers, fire-fighters, policemen. Cause America is awesome)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2015): Trust your gut. If her actions are telling you she is superficial and just with you to kill time, then you are probably right.
Take a step back from her & see if she invites you out and pays for a change. If not, let her know how you feel and keep the distance while you keep your options open also.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your honest answer, i appreciate it! Trust me i'm not a snake at all, I just want to know if there's something really or not. Yes I do pay for everything when we go out. My biggest flag is she don't ask anything about me to get to know me, doesn't that mean she don't care? Sex, to me, isn't a thing that i want, but what sex symbolize. What's the different between friend and boyfriend without sex? I just want to know there is something there, I'll wait if there is. Many girls don't like to be alone and they (like this one) never been alone, always had someone. With that, i'm just afraid i'm one of the filler until she finds someone that she truly wants.
Thanks for your input
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2015): You seem as mixed up as you say she is so i think you should back off for a bit and hold things down.She is just divorced and youve been seeing her for two months and already you are saying she might be using you.How on earth can that be so?Do you pay for everything when you go out so that you think she is taking advantage financially?Does she drag you out against your will, kicking and screaming to be her escort at a venue she doesnt want to be seen alone at? Do you feel she owes you sex because youve been to one or two venues together?She's been married, so that means she's been wooed,dated,wedded and bedded and now divorced but your expecting instant payback from a two month association.Your not even really a friend with that attitude.Your just another snake in the grass out for what he can get and ready to complain if he doesnt..
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