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anonymous
writes:Hello, here goes...last August I texted a girl(33) who goes to my church if she would like to go cinema or coffee sometime. She texted back that evening, agreed and we met one evening. We watched film, enjoyed a small meal and it occurred to me that she hadn't realised that this was a "date."Some things you can just "feel" and knew this to be so. At the end of the evening I suggested we do this again sometime, she was quite surprised, and agreed, but was away for the next 3 weeks. This was actually true!!I pondered all this and thought..."no, leave it."Anyway, recently, we seem to be really getting on well at church and at church groups every week. We seem to be laughing at each others jokes, sitting next to each other, fooling around a little! Shall I try again? I want to, but have the usual rejection fears or embarrasment fears again. Ladies...what could I do to "have an idea" she's interested but shy!!Guys...what would you try?All help gratefully received please!!!Thank you all, x
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reader, ishawan +, writes (19 April 2008):
 I would say try again. Although I'm only 16, I had this trouble last weekend, when prior to the event, I wasn't sure if she considered it a date (as I posted on here). However on the day we were just sitting on a bench, and I just put my arm round her and she accepted it and things went on from there. So my advice would be try that, I hope it works for you. Start small then build.
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (19 April 2008):
You don't need to be on an official Date for sparks to fly and for you to get together. Why put a label on it? It could be better if you are more relaxed and not on a date.
Just ask her to meet up again and really get to know her. If something is going to happen with you and her then it will.
Carry on seeing her and see what happens.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, unluckyinlife +, writes (19 April 2008):
i think you should definatly ask her out again. if she enjoyed herself last time then why wouldn't she accept?
as you said she is shy so she may be pondering over the same thing but is too shy to ask you out.
if you dont ask her out then someone else will beat you to it and you will kick yourself for not trying again.
hope this helps even if only a little bit.
good luck x
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