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writes:Hey, well here's the deal. When I was in my room with the door closed, I was watching some porn.. with my penis showing and in erection. I wasn't masturbating but my sis pushed the door, she didn't look directly and walked off. I'm traumatized that she may have saw me. How do I deal with this?? More importantly how do I STOP WATCHING PORN! I mean I say this is the last time, then this is def the last time, I seem to be giving up on my own words.. Any help for a 13 year old is despair? Btw My sis is 22
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Despair? Give me a possible break! Sisters are normally wired to embarress the heck out of their brothers no big deal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): If your sister is 22, she's probably seen lots of penises, so seeing yours was no big deal, believe me. And she walked away when she noticed you were looking at porn and masturbating, so she was probably just as embarrased as you were.
At 22, she knows that guys your age, if fact, guys of every age, masturbate, and has probably seen at least one other guy do that. So I wouldn't worry about it. As far as your porn issue, you'll probably grow out of it once you get a girlfriend and start having sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): Dude, you are totally normal, what happened was very typical in an American household, and I'm sure shes seen it or heard about it before. Don't worry...wear your manhood habits with pride. Almost all men masturbate, and so do teens. At your age, I was beating off regularly to Hustler and Penthouse, and had ELABORATE mental fantasies that I played out in my mind for hours. In fact, I've had a soft addiction to porn all my life. I used to watch th eporn channel SCRAMBLED I was so desperate for porn. The only negative effect fromit is that I've seen so much, that nothing really excites me like when I was younger. It has become all about physical stimulation now, and not so much mental.
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reader, Afterglow +, writes (14 July 2010):
 Ok Lil' Bro....MAN to young MAN
Regarding your sister possibly seeing you, GET OVER IT..WALK IT OFF...you are a teenage boy. EVERY adult knows that is what boys/ men do. You were watching porn and being aroused in the privacy of your own room. You should not feel embarrassed or uptight. What you were doing was normal. If anything you should feel ANNOYED that she just walks into your room unannounced. What if you were, merely, changing clothes. Are you not entitled to a certain level of privacy? On the other hand, if your door wasn't locked or you are not able to lock your door and your were watching porn with your dick out, you have no one to blame but yourself. Come on Bro, you know that you can't just do the porn thing anytime anywhere. If you don't have full privacy, then your porn time has to be properly choreographed.
Now, how to stop. First off, how much porn are you watching and how often? Do you want to stop due to a feeling of guilt, or is there a serious problem developing? Is your watching of porn interfering with how you are living your life? Only you know the truth about your exposure to porn.
Your total desire to view porn is not going to fully dissipate. As men, it's hardwired into our consciousness. We have a visceral response to sexual imagery. Thanks to testosterone, there is no getting away from that. What we CAN do is curb our exposure.
Let's be honest, porn is not forced on you. You have to actually PHYSICALLY expose yourself to it. You want to stop watching it, then remove it from your room. If it's in the form of magazines, tapes and dvd's, then simply get rid of them. If it's in the form of internet porn, then you can have a security setting adapted that will not allow access to porn websites. Since you think you are out of control, you may need to solicit the help of a trusted friend to set a security password that you wont have access to.
Those are ways to physically remove porn from your life. Now if you are desiring to MENTALLY remove thoughts and desires for pornographic imagery and stimuli, that also requires action. Once your physical exposure is reduced and you start to engage in regular teenage activities(sports, hanging with friends, hobbies, etc.), your mind will be occupied with other character developing stimuli.
Like I said, only you know how much of a porn addict you may or may not be. 13 years old in 2010, is a little different than being 13 in 1984. You guys are a little more desensitized than we were. Playboy was a big deal back then. Now, you guys have access to much more graphic imagery. I know that once that sexual imagery door has been opened, it doesn't usually close fully there after. If you sense that you are really developing a problem and want to deal with it, then start by eliminating your exposure(which is fully within your control).
Peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): Well I'm the guy who posted this.
Thanks to everyone, well she didn't bring anything up. yet.. :P And yeah I feel more relaxed today..
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): She properly be thinking "Omg, that's disgusting" because your her BROTHER. But yeah she wont judge you for watching porn.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (14 July 2010):
 She's 22. She knows what teen boys do, she probably left and started giggling, most women would. If you really want to stop watching porn, just stop. If it's actually difficult to stop watching porn (as opposed to masturbating without porn) then you should probably quit it for other reasons (like a beginning addiction) rather than because your sister saw you. I mean yeah, it was probably a bit awkward, but she knows you masturbate and probably knew/assumed you watched porn. It's really no big deal! Not much different than accidentally walking in on someone taking a dump.
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reader, busy04 +, writes (14 July 2010):
 I don't think you have much to worry about here. She may not have even seen anything. And even if she did...it's still okay. Calm down :) SillyB, no disrespect to you, but just because she's 22 doesn't mean that she experienced those things. Every young woman isn't always into everything :)
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (14 July 2010):
 relax.... first of all watching porn and doing this kind of stuff is not bad at all. you are not the only one who is doing that. don't worry later you will not notice it will change. 2nd" your sister is already 22, she is not anymore young. maybe she really see you, but she will understand that and try to forget it. like she never saw anything. but next time, try to lock the door, make it sure no body had a chance to see what you are doing inside of your room. ok.. have a great day..
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reader, SillyB +, writes (14 July 2010):
 You're sister is 22 buddy - she's had boyfriends, she's had sex, she's seen men masturbate, she's watched porn. She a grown woman.
Truly believe me when I say that it is NO big deal! She wont say anything (if she saw anything). She has enough life experience to be understanding. If she does bring it up, just apologize and tell her you're humiliated.
No big deal though, if I walked in on my little brother I'd probably make a joke out of it - tell him he's gross or something.
Big hug.
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