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writes:my boyfriend and i had plans for this weekend but my cousin came down and those plans were trashed...so i jus invited him over to watch a movie with me but little did i know my sis and my cousin was in there the whole time so we had no privacy what so ever :( i only got three kisses in the whole 4 hours he was at my house ya so i was majorly pissed off, but what pissed me off th most is my cousin was flirting with my boyfriend!!! ya my favorite cousin was flirting with my boyfrind o and let me tell you my cousin has some big boobs ok and she was like flaunting them in his face and he didn't tell her to stop. o and when my boyfriend and i were broke up he and my cousin would talk on the phone all the time... so my question is wats going on here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): I am sorry to hear about your situation, I can relate to your story. For years my older sister behaved and dressed innapropriately in front of my boyfriends. She would introduce herself in lowcut leopard print lycra or bikinis and flirt with whoever I was dating, one partner in particular. I have introduced 6 of my boyfriends to my married sister, 2 of them have made comments about her hot body ( which was deeply hurtful) and I suspect something more happened with one of my boyfriends who made innapropriate comments.These events have negativley affected my self estteem and emotional wellbeing. My sister and I are both considered very attractive women. Part of what made my own situation so distressing is that my sister and I look so similar,we have almost identical facial features and the same waist and hip measurements, the only physical difference being my sister has breast augmentation and lightens her hair. I always wanted to trust my sister and believe that she was unaware of the pain she was causing me. I decided to ask her in a non confrontational way to dress more conservatively because it made me feel uncomfortable and insecure. Her reply was disturbing. She asked me if all of my boyfriends had a hard on for her. I realized in an instant that I should not have given her the benefit of the doubt, that she had known all along how out of line her behavior had been. I was taught growing up to ignore my feelings. I have learned from this experience to always trust my gut. If you feel your cousin is out of line trust your insticts. If you feel confronting her will help, do so. I regret speaking with my sister, she would have learned a real lesson if I had turned the tables and acted with her husband as she had with my boyfriends. if you feel your boyfriend was being disrespectful of you when your cousin was around, listen to these feelings. Trust and repect are everyhting, without them there is no relationship
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reader, iateadonut  +, writes (29 June 2008):
Something that someone is holding is more attractive than something sitting on a desk.
Do you have more friends? Bring your cousin and sister out with your boyfriend and some more boys, attractive ones. See what happens and let us know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): If she is so obviously flirting and flaunting herself infront of him, ask her to stop. If you trust your boyfriend, you should ask him if he fancies your cousin.The thing about your boyfriend not telling her to stop with the boobs, well theres two reasons for that. One: He's male.This doesn't mean that he likes the girl who owns the boobs and Two: He may have thought it would be rude to just say "excuse me but could you put those away."
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