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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2009): Sounds like you have a problem. Is your brother gay does it really matter to you so much. Ask him if you feel you have to, just dont expect him to be honest if he is. He will find is own time and place for that and doesnt need anyone pushng him especially you. Most gay youth first come out to brothers and sisters because dispite all the rivally they trust each other. Dont push him away by being too inquisitive, let him grow and gain confidence on his own. Just be there to give him a hug when he decides its time. That will mean the world to him.
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reader, Ergo-Proxy  +, writes (15 October 2008):
I am not an expert at this but my sister came to me and asked me if i was gay. I think you should just ask, and or write him a letter asking him if he IS gay. you know its hard to come out to family and friends, i should know. so take my answer into consideration.
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reader, ChaseTerrier +, writes (11 September 2008):
Why do you think he is gay?
He may not be gay, crossdresser or anything else like that. He may just be a effeminate male. An effeminate male can be a straight male, just like a tomboy does not mean a girl is a lesbian.
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reader, Aunty_Amber  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 there is no way to find out...respect him - if he wants to tell you he will but if he doesnt then you have to accept that.
btw wizard of waz you are sooooo steroetypical!!!!! my cousin is 100% gay and he is the most popular jock at school and the most well...manly guy iv ever met.
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reader, Teenage-Rebel +, writes (20 May 2008):
 If your unhappy about it. Have you tried confronting him about it?
It might be a difficult answer but atleast you will know the truth from the right person.
Or you could wait until he tells you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): First of all it is none of your business young man, stop watching what your brother is doing.
Secondly, can we have less silliness and stupidity on this board. Adults shouldn't tell lies to kids about how to spot if someone is gay or not.
Thirdly, I have some ideas of my own. He usually has a large purple mole in the middle of his back, he never washes, he's a slob, he mops around the house carrying a handbag, he has an extra little finger and his toes are full of fungus. If you see these signs it could mean that your brother is gay.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (19 May 2008):
 Ask him his favioute Madonna album
If he says anything but "i dont like madonna" there you go hes gay
had to get one i
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): I apologise for that last comment, too much coffee...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): Oh, but, does he have a handbag and/or purse?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): I agree with the rest of the aunts, why is it your concern? I mean, I can understand you being interested but maybe you should wait until he tells you or the family, if he IS actually gay.
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reader, BlondeBabe x +, writes (18 May 2008):
 why would it even matter if he is gay or not you are brothers and family should stick together.
If you really want to know ask him or wait for him to tell you.
To be honest it shouldnt really bother you.
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reader, tsurugi-ijin +, writes (18 May 2008):
 Why would it matter to you if he is?
Please write more in an update as this doesnt tell us alot, like your brothers age ect.
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reader, spanglegirl +, writes (18 May 2008):
 It shouldn't matter if he is gay or not, he is your brother and you should love him for who he is not what he is. If he is gay he might be feeling confused or not ready to tell anyone, you have to let him tell you when he is ready and not before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): Yes, why is it a concern? At this age, it is premature to be wondering about something like this, and it should be far from anyones mind.
Where did you get the idea to even question this? Other kids talk about gays and lesbians? Is this really a big deal with kids? Why? Sexualality should not become an issue until your in your 20's or older to me, of course I maybe old fashion.
I suggest you keep your nose out of others sexual business, and worry about your own life, school and just being social.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (18 May 2008):
just leave him alone
whether hes straight or not
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (18 May 2008):
 Why does it matter whether or not your brother is gay?
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (18 May 2008):
 Wait until he tells you. Its his decision.
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