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writes:Hi there, I'm Kirsty, I have been seeing my boyfriend for 5 months on and off. We have our silly wee arguments and all that and recently I have been feeling left out.I am convinced that he is cheating on me, when I'm with him there are other girls phoning him and he goes out the room to answer it.I'm not sure what to do any more I love him to bits and I don't want to finish with him as I am pregnant with his baby.I confronted him with it but he says he's not, he's already cheated on me once and I think it's happening again. What to do?
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (15 February 2009):
 Hiya Kirsty :),
Well I think it's suspiscious that he leaves the room to take these calls and since he has previous I would most definatly have my hackles raised.
I know you love him and I know you are carrying his kid but are you really going to be happy with this going on?? Is this going to be an ideal enviroment for your child...to be honest I dont think it will be if both parents are living a relationship that is a bit of a lie it is bound to implode sooner or later which will just make things worse.
He's said he is not but then you need to ask him straight why he takes the calls in private. I personally think taking his phone is a little underhand but you need to know the truth (although I think you already do but are in denial). Sadly, I think your only course will be to end this but as has been said insist he support the child which is his responsibility. Good luck :)xx
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reader, Even Numbers  +, writes (15 February 2009):
Well, no one can give you a definitive answer as to whether or not he is cheating on you, unfortunately.
Do you know who these other girls are that are calling him? Him having female friends that call him is definitely nothing to be concerned about, but if he's being evasive about it, or gets defencive when you ask him about the calls, then perhaps there is something going on. The fact that he cheated on you before would be reason enough to believe that he may do it again, though that is definitely NOT always the case. Sometimes we are so worried about a boyfriends past infidelities that we can't help but suspect them all the time.
That being said, he should be a little more considerate toward your feelings. It isn't helpful to the relationship to have girls calling him all the time...but, then again, you are both very young, and socializing is what you do.
All I can say is, he should be the least of your concerns right now if all he's doing is causing you stress and anxiety. You are pregnant, and those feelings can seriously affect your unborn child. I know it's hard, but don't worry about what he's out doing...worry about what your baby is doing inside of you.
It's your baby that will stick with you for the rest of your life, unconditionally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): listen hunny,
ask yourself this question, are you happy? that is the main thing you need to think of. If you are having suspicions that he is cheating dont just leave it ask him and if he says no trust him. if you dont srust him ask yourself why, one of the main parts of a relationship is trust.
hope it all goes well.
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reader, HopeLoveFaith  +, writes (15 February 2009):
This is a really tough situation. If he's already cheated on you, that's suspicious. He obviously isn't honest, is he? It's even more strange that he has girls calling his cell phone and privatly answering. Try to take his phone while he's not around, see who he's called. Yeah it's sneaky, but you have a right. He's going to be a effing father! If it begins to be more suspicious, I'd talk to your family. As them what they think you should do. If he's cheating on you again, then let him get one thing straight. He still has to support that baby. You may want to speak with his parents too, if your getting suspicious. Maybe they can knock some sense into him.
Good luck.
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