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I think my boyfriend is cheating

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Question - (8 November 2007) 9 Answers - (Newest, 9 November 2007)
A female South Africa age 30-35, *ueenS writes:

I think my boyfriend is cheating. well all the sign are there,he doesnt call everyday as he used to,he send people he doent know sweet sms/mms.he is rude on the phone when i talk to him,we rarely see eah other and he has changed his style of kissing. when i confronted himb about it he swears he will never cheat on me. another thing his ex wants him back, so is he cheating or is he confused because of his ex? what do i do?

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A female reader, dontworryiknow United Kingdom +, writes (9 November 2007):

dontworryiknow agony auntand might i add to my last comment maybe your just falling in love with him thats leading you to be worried of loosing him theres a word its called anxiety.

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A female reader, dontworryiknow United Kingdom +, writes (9 November 2007):

dontworryiknow agony auntlisen no matter what he might be doing thats makes you think he is , until you have proof of him cheating then dont do anything harsh trust me he might be feeling either tierd, depressed, moody, stressed, or even alone within himself never blame yourself for his actions its all the relationship itself matureing, men will always talk to other girls its normal even talking to people on the internet is just to boost his ego its nothing to do with you and the change in kissing might even be somthing he saw or was told you never know. hope it works out x

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A female reader, Sugarbuns Australia +, writes (8 November 2007):

Sugarbuns agony auntTalk is cheap, and actions speak louder than words, so regardless of what he "says" his actions say something different. You can't force someone to be in a relationship with you if they have one foot out the door. I'd say give this boy his freedom and see what happens. Don't call him. Don't text him. Find ways to avoid him and see if he comes to find you. When he does, tell him that things need to change or the relationship is over with. If you anti-up the stakes, he'll either rise to the occasion - meaning he does love you and want to still be with you. Or he'll bail out to be with his ex - meaning you saved yourself months of wondering, waiting and stressing out over something that would've happened anyhow. You deserve better.

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A female reader, red1982 United Kingdom +, writes (8 November 2007):

It doesn't sound like this relationship is any fun for you.

I would suggest that you sit down and tell him that you don't like the way things are going at the moment and that you feel he isn't talking to you enough and is being rude to you. He may not have noticed that you feel that way.

Those things don't necessarily mean that he is cheating - just not putting enough effort into the relationship.

Hope you get things sorted!

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A female reader, sexi South Africa +, writes (8 November 2007):

sexi agony auntHi

What does your instincts tell you? If you feel that he if cheating on you then i would say trust yout instincts.

Regards.mail me if you wanna talk

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A female reader, Mistify South Africa +, writes (8 November 2007):

Mistify agony auntYou cannot base your decision on the info you've provided, but you must TRUST your gut.

Usually when we suspect something is wrong, then something is. The only thing that is upsetting, is the fact that he is rude to you.. He might be stressing about something, but it is still no reason to take it out on you. Maybe he's just confused.

I think you need to sit down with him, and tell him all your concerns, and ask him if there is anything you can do to change it.

Good luck.

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A male reader, Benjo United Kingdom +, writes (8 November 2007):

You can't say for certain he is playing around from this information, to find this out you will need to sit him down and talk to him, trying asking him questions about his changes and you should be able to get an idea of what is going on in his head. It may be totally unrelated to another girl, on the other hand you may be right. You just need to communicate with him. Ben.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (8 November 2007):

kenny agony auntI don't really think there is enough information here to say yes he is cheating. So he does not call every day, his style of kissing has changed, he is sometimes offish with you, this does not mean he playing away. He has told you he would never cheat on you, so believe what he says. Untill you find some concrete evidence then i would be inclined to trust him.

Good luck x

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A female reader, lisamariewaller United Kingdom +, writes (8 November 2007):

the only thing i can say is. . . LEAVE HIM!!!! if its not the same then he is obviousl playing arround with somone else. lisa xxx

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