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writes:I love my boyfriend, don't get me wrong,but I think my male bestfriend is my soulmate.He knows me like no other, and makes me feel happy and safe and beautiful.I don't really know what to do, I'm relatively at peace with it, but thats because I know we'll be best friends forever, through anything, and that we'll love eachother til we die.Though I think my boyfriend is starting to get a bit hurt that I spend so much time with my bestfriendWhich is irritating cause I don't think he'd be like that if my bestfriend was a girl.What should I do?I dont want to upset my boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): I'm so glad to know i'm not the only one that is going through the same problem!!
Honey... i beleive that you are confused. Part of being a best friend is knowing your best friend better than anyone. So he knows you, and he makes you feel good, and you like hanging out with him. The thing is, we're talking about a guy.
I think you should ask yourself some questions like, do you really love your bf? and if you were in your bf shoes, would you be ok with him hanging out a lot with his best friend (which happens to be a girl and will love him until he die)? or would you be hurt and jealous?
From my experience, i realized that if real friendship lasts forever, than my best friend wouldn't mind if i spent less time with him and more time with my bf.
Besides, when you turn your friendship into a relationship, chances are that if you guys break up, things will never go back to the way they were. You might lose a real friend in the process.
You should evaluate, are you happy with your bf? would you be happier if you were with your best friend instead of your bf?
and on last advice, if your best friend is really your soulmate, than, no matter what, you guys will be together someday. you just have to wait to see how things will play out. In the meantime, try to be a bit more understanding with your bf, i think he might be feeling a little left out...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): Sounds to me like you want your cake and eat it too. You'll have to decide which man will be your boyfriend and that, even though we know we die, our friendships sometimes do not last for ever.
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