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female
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36-40,
*targazer87
writes:Hello, I'm 23 and living with my boyfriend of two and a half years. I really think I'm with the wrong person, but I don't know what to do.We have been living together since about three months into our relationship and it's been a mess the whole time. Don't get me wrong, he's a good guy, he just got himself into all the wrong situations and is pretty much incapable of being happy. This is why I am so unhappy, I've spent the last few years trying to make him happy and nothing works. He has no ambitions, no self worth, no goals. We live with his family. He has two kids with an ex who he let's do whatever she wants with them (she makes all the decisions and he doesn't stick up for his own views). I just can't deal with being with someone so miserable anymore.Here's where I need help. I'm financially stuck. I pay all my own bills and have a full time job as well as going to school full time, buri just barely get by. I can't afford to rent anywhere and my family lives far away. I feel so trapped in this situation. I have become depressed and withdrawn from all my friends and I just don't know what to do. I really love my boyfriend as a person, I care about him and dont want to hurt him, hes my best friend,but don't I deserve to be happy? I'm so confused.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 December 2010):
 It sounds like a misserable situation.
What I would suggest is that you sit down and make yourself a budget. Cut out ALL things you really don't need, cell phone.. yes, you REALLY don't need one if it cost you more then $20-30 a month ( get a preiad one from Wallmart/Target) and buy monthly cards.
Internet, do you need it for school? If so, keep it.
Magazines or subscriptions, cancel them.
Creditcards, stop using them and pay them off.
Shop around for car insurance, if you think that can save you a little.
Look around and see if you can get a room to let. Find someone who needs a room mate.
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