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writes:i feel really insecure, it doesnt help when my ex and best friend are together i get so jealous its with other girls as well, i no its bad and annoying i would invite her out feeling happy, then when i see them together i just would stay away. He treats her the way he used to treat me, he'll put his hand on her shoulder i know it seems little but he never used to be like this with her, I just feel so ugly when there together so i try and give them space, some boys will tease me saying your ex is looking for you he's with my best friend, but they emphasize her name and give me a sympathetic look like somethings going on. She's similar to me and him. He's not a touchy feely person im the only person he shows affection to well was the only. I used to be the only person he'd go and hug. A month ago he said he's never hugged her which was true and doesnt care if he didnt. Now after a night out he'd hug me bye but he'd also hug her but she always goes no i don't like hugs and he'd be like make an exception for me then they would hug. I always look the other way because i dont wanna see it. But it hurts because when she used to reject before he wouldnt care now its like he really wants to hug her and wont take no for an answer. Also he hugs her last.Is he saving best till last. advice much appreciated my jealousy is eating away at me, i cant stop crying wishing i was prettier it hurts him to, is it normal to not wanna join in the conversation if your ex is talking to a pretty girl.
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reader, kelsey18 +, writes (15 February 2010):
 i understand. i've recently just split up with somebody, and i met him thru my best friend. They used to be very close but wen me and him got together they lost that closeneess, but now that we've split up that closeness between the two of them has returned. I know there just friends but my best friend is very pretty and i no shes his type of girl only thing is shes a bit out of his league. I'm quite an attractive girl aswel but me and her are attractive in completli different ways and i know shes more is type. sometimes i wonder if there just friends. I get really paranoid about it. So yeah i no exactly how your feeling. But the thing is you can't really do much about it,if they want to be friends there not gona stop just because it makes you feel uncomfortable especially if they get on really well. All i would say to her is i don't mind that you two are friendly but could you just try to be more sensitive about my feelings wen i'm with u and you and him start all this hugging and endless chatting business. Hope this helps :) x
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