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writes: My bf wants us to sleep together, and I think I want to also, but at the same time, I'm scared of how attached it might make me. I already love him so much, and I don't know how I'd get by if we broke up ... I can't imagine loving him more. I've never been any good at being vulnerable, and I can't imagine anything more vulnerable than feeling more emotionally connected to this guy. He says my fears are never going to go away and that I need to just do it anyway and I'll be happy afterwards b/c I'll see it's nothing bad. We're very in love and are both past college and in a long-term relationship. We've been talking about it for months, and I feel like I change my mind about it like 3 times a day -- I definitely feel ready, then I'm too scared and want to back out, then I'm ready again. Is he right?? Should I just suck it up and do it even though I'm afraid, and just learn to let go of control of everything??
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reader, Green +, writes (17 November 2006):
I would never pressure my girlfriend into having sex. If you are feeling pressured, it may explain your hesitation. Trust your intuition and follow what feels right. If you are scared, then now is not the right time in my opinion. Is he truly treating you with dignity and respect? A real man will allow his partner to follow their own path until the time is right.
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