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writes:I dont think my husband loves me because I just cant feel that!I think this question will be a long question.We did love each other a lot, he left his hometown and move to my city, in the frount of all the pressure just came to us, all the bills, jobs, stuff we stay together and worked them out. But now he just told me hes tired of that and dont want to handle it again.We even cant have a conversation now. Because no matter whatever we say, it will be a fight.I used to think maybe it was me, I wasnt nice enough and sometimes p^^^ him off or hurt him( Because i said he didnt go to Uni before, but I swear I didnt mean to hurt him), then he began to be selfish, and hide things from me.Then I just feel there's distance between him and me, and I feel there's less love and care. So I just try to get closer to him but he just want to keep the distance, a few weeks ago he told me he wants to back home for a while ( without thinking about coming back) and I agreed with him even I dont want him to go, because I guess maybe both of us need some space. But after he book the flight he just try to flight with me, I mean he just changed, because before he would be this kind of mean.Since my mum knows he did flirt with other girls online he just try to keep the distance with my mum. I can see that!!!And I asked him in a nice way because I dont want the distance, I wish I could be the person that he would like to trust but he just gave me exause like he always do. And I told him would we have a talk and he said you are too young to talk to me, he is 25 and Im 21.He said Im a fool, because I never think, but I dont understand if a smart guy married a foolish girl, then maybe he is more stupid!And everytime we have any fight he just says Im too young or Im so silly ...I dont think he loves me and he is leaving without thinking about back to me.I dont know what should I do. Because I love him but at the same time Im tired of this ^^^t.HELP!!!
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (30 December 2012):
It takes 2 people to be in a marraige-you are on your own.That is very hurtful situation to be in.he blames you for everything but he is the silly one not you.YOU DESERVE to be loved respected and have your opinion heard.Because you are so aware of the situation it will help you to decide to leave.Start living for you find peace and find you again.I WISH YOU SO WELL FOR THE FUTURE. NORA B.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (29 December 2012):
 You are living by yourself now? It must be tough for you to pay everything by yourself.
" But after he book the flight he just try to flight with me, I mean he just changed, because before he would be this kind of mean."
What does that mean?
You are not silly. It's him who is trying to dodge responsibility by not talking about it, mostly because he has not found a solution yet. A relationship requires more than just love because it has multiple demands that love just won't suffice. A dog can love you, in fact it is more devoted than a human being when it comes to attention. But it can't converse about feelings, pay bills or buy food at the groceries. He is pulling away not because he doesn't love you, but because being with you means that he has to be more than what he is now, and he has not figured a way to move ahead when it comes to his career. Flirting with girls online is an escape and the girls could give him an ego boost, but at the end he still has to deal with you, bring you closure or man up, take care of you. He is blaming you because he just can't face being a failure in the relationship.
What you need is not more arguing about who's right who's wrong? You need to figure out a living situation and give yourselves a deadline. After the deadline you move on and divorce him. He seems to be a boy. In a marriage you need a man. He is moving back not because you need space, but because he needs his mom to take care of him without her emasculating his abilities. He must be badmouthing you to her, blaming it all on you. I think, with this distance it's the start of the dissolution of the marriage. You have to think for yourself, what's best for you and plan for your life without him.
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