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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hey, i need advice, i think im falling for a gay guy! Im a bi girl, and still geting over a relationship which ended like, 5 months ago. this guy, (call him Jon) is the first person ive been attracted to since the break up. we havnt known eachother that long but we go the same dance school and we have 6hours of classes a week together. I know that nothing can happen and i am happy with that i really am im just wondering if there is anything i can do to get the feelings to go away ASAP. we are pretty close and we have loads of fun like, we do a lot of dances as partners and stuff and in one lift he leaves fingerprints on my arm and he always rubs it better, and touches my bum when dancing and like, tickles me and stuff and im fine with that i truly am! I am under control of my attraction to him and stuff, i know i cannot do anything about it and i wouldnt want to, but i am scared it may get in the way of our friendship. On thursday, one of the little kids at the class we were helping at thought we wer a couple and said so, and "jon" laughed it off and was like "well" in a bemused way and i was a little slow on the laugh i was sort of in shock and i think he noticed because he wasnt like, watching me dance as much or making eyecontact as muchi just really want these feelings to go away, what can i do to help them go faster?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): there is nothing you can particularly do to make these feelings go away. you cant help who you fall for. but you have already said yourself that nothing can happen between you and nothing will ever happen so you just have to focus on that really. i know it can be difficult when you are so close all the time, especially with your dances but he sees you as a friend and thats the way it needs to stay. you will get over this in time. just focus on the fact that you want him in your life as a good friend and that trying to change your friendship into a relationship could potentially ruin everything you have together forever. Good luck xx
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