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writes:I would greatly appreciate your advice. My boyfriend of three years proposed to me last Christmas but is yet to show an ounce of interest in the wedding or even setting a year. Our sex life has practicality non existent due to him apparently having a low libido the last year. I moved back in with my mum 2 months ago and am now having a whirlwind romance. We are so in love with each other but in due to go travelling with my ex next months...its been my dream for so long and a lot of money has been spent by both....should u still go? Since finding out about my new man my ex wants to set a date for the wedding!!!! After 4 years of keeping on about marriage i feel this is just to win me back and not because he wants.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (19 December 2014):
 Yikes, poor NEW dude.
I think you CAN go on the vacation with the ex, if you CAN NOT get a refund or travel with someone else, BUT I think it's a tad unfair on the new guy. Specially since your EX, wants you back. WHICH means you two aren't travelling as friends, but as two people with a LONG ROMANTIC and INTIMATE past where feelings are STILL not resolved.
I do find it odd that he wants to set a date with you "being OH SO in love" with a new guy. I mean if your EX had moved on to another girl would you WANT to marry him? So yes, I kinda sense he is trying to "win" you back by offering to set a date.
YOU and your ex and ALL the problems from THAT relationship is not resolved and you don't seem to WANT the ex back, but you do want a wedding... So my advice....
THINK long and hard on this. And IF you go on the vacation/travel don't be intimate with the ex while traveling.
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