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writes:i have a problem that will seem really immature... i tend to lie to make a conversation happen or to impress people how can i change this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): Make today the turning point, don't tell anymore lies. that is it, the future starts here and now. no more lies.
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reader, AskEve + ♥, writes (5 September 2007):
 To be a good liar you need to have a fantastic memory, liars always get caught out in the end so it's really not worth it but of course you know that don't you? Everyone lies from time to time, there's no one that's blameless but it's the "big" lies that are worse. Not all lies are harmful. In fact, sometimes lying is the best approach for protecting privacy and ourselves and others from malice, Some deception, such as boasting and lies in the name of tact and politeness, can be classified as less than serious. But bald-faced lies (whether they involve leaving out the truth or putting in something false), are harmful, as they corrode trust and intimacy.
It's tied in with self-esteem, as soon as people feel that their self-esteem is threatened, they immediately begin to lie at higher levels and this is what you're doing. I have given you 2 links to have a look at, one to help you stop lying and one to help build up your self esteem. Read them carefully, they really will help.http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Lyinghttp://www.more-selfesteem.com/self_esteem.htm
You have a mind, your feelings come from your mind and YOU can control your feelings...
Eve
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (4 September 2007):
 No it's not immature... a lot of people do this. In fact, I read once, that the average person lies about or embellishes information to others, about 10 times per day. But what is mature, is you recognize it and you want to change it. Building your self-confidence will help, firstly. Just becoming aware you are doing it, secondly. Try this. Tell yourself, no matter what, you will be honest for one whole day. Anything you say, any questions you answer...you will state the truth. Practise this daily and it will become a habit. And also realize that loving yourself for all your gifts, is what is is important and that others will take you as is. Just be positive, kinder, stronger and wise and honest When you aren't honest and you lie, others note that and are not impressed. So just don't do it.
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reader, Beckto  +, writes (4 September 2007):
 Try doing a little at a time. Stop lying about one aspect of your life at a time. Or stop lying to certain people. Or try limiting what you lie about. If you catch yourself saying something that's an embellishment on the truth, correct yourself right then, even if it feels a little embarrassing. For instance, if you say, "I was riding a camel in Egypt once," but really it wasn't you, it was your friend, stop yourself right then and say, "actually it was my friend who was riding..." and finish your "story." Lying to people is a way to make yourself seem better, more interesting than you think you really are. The root of it is in a lack of self-confidence. Know that the plain you, without the lying and embellishments is interesting enough! Most people who know you pretty well, probably already know that you have a problem with lying. I have known a few people myself whose reputations for lying preceded them. You're right to want to stop. It's really more embarrassing than impressive. If you can't really deal with this on your own, you may want to look into getting some therapy. It would be a good reason to go see someone.Take care.
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reader, biddy  +, writes (4 September 2007):
You do not need to lie im sure you are a very interesting man. If people do not like the way you are then they are not worth knowing. A lot of people tend to do this its really common as long as they are not big lies that would get you caught out. Be yourself! But most of all think before you speak is really a good start. Think about what come back this will have on you.
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reader, pavel38 +, writes (4 September 2007):
We are all perhaps guilty of this to a small extent. Perhaps a daft thing to say but why not just be yourself ?. That way you won't look stupid if you get caught out and you may find that what you think impresses people doesn't. I used to know someone who could be like you've described and he came across as a real attention seeker, which is a big turn off, so be more confident about yourself and you'll be fine.
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