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36-40,
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writes:Hey everyone, just looking for some advice and I guess some moral support :-) Brief background story: I've always been shy and introverted, and have been in abusive relationships in the past. After my last long term relationship I moved back in with my parents, the break up was slightly messy. I currently still live with them. My parents are great parents, very open minded and laid backMy relationship with them is okay, but i've always been a really private person and find it hard to share personal stuff with them. Although this used to upset them a little and they couldn't understand why I was so withdrawn in comparison to my siblings they've come to accept its just who I am.So after being single for about 4 years, iv met a great guy. The possible cons in regards to my family are that he's of a different race and religion. However he's a great guy, we've been seeing each other around 6 months, he loves me and treats me well, makes me really happy.The issue is i just can't pluck up the courage to tell my parents!There are the differences which they might not be happy about, but this is not the major thing putting me off...... I just feel really awkward in sharing this personal information with them, and squirm at the thought of the awkward introductions, and endless questions from my siblings, as well as the probable teasing from them.I just can't find the words to tell my mum I'm seeing someone and I like him, how do I just come out with it?..........I've met his family, and he wants to meet mine, and I think he deserves to, he's such a great guy.Also there's the fact that my parents constantly ask where I'm going etc as usually I don't get out much and my friendship circle is very small and familiar to them, but the past few months iv been constantly out of the house and I'm tired of trying to make excuses as I don't want to directly lie to them.I know this question may seem ridiculous at my age! But I do suffer from social anxiety and also have had really bad relationships in the past with people I actually plucked up the courage to tell them about! Thanks
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 May 2016):
 Next time they ask where are you off to say you are off to meet a guy you have been seeing and tell them you would like them to meet him. It can be scary in your mind yes, but there is nothing logically to fear. Why not get your anxiety under control? Visit your GP and see what can be done about it.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (26 May 2016):
 Its time for you to grow up.
You've been the scared little girl for far too long. Your not a girl anymore, your a woman and women don't cower in the corner.
Its hard I know, but you need to stand up here and just tell them.
You will feel better after its all said and done.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (26 May 2016):
 Well yes you are being silly about this. After all who do you most want to be with - your new partner or your mum and dad?
If you can't get the words out... If you can't find the right time to confide in one or both... Write a letter; explain everything and hand it to one of them to read.
I think you will be pleasantly surprised at the outcome.
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