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writes:I am a married women in my 30's and I suffer from premature climaxing... My husband and I don't have sex that often (once a week) due to family commitments and work and because of this I'm all pent up with desire, as soon as my husband enters me I climax straight away and it becomes uncomfortable for me and we can't carry on, I do pleasure him in other ways so it's not a huge problem but I would like sex to last longer than a few seconds! My problem is the same even if we have foreplay or not, I've tried creams (numbing) and climaxing before and if anything it makes it worst..I thought this only happens to men! . Any advice please?
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (4 February 2014):
 I wish WELL I always desired that I could get off like this. I always have to stimulate my clitoris. After I do climax I dont really want to continue either so I try to time myself with the guy and request he lets me know he is having a orgasm cause I like to know it makes me horny. I havent but one time had a penetration orgasm and it was very faint like it just felt good but not as good as clitor stimulation. I always wonder how some women get off within seconds to or squirting. I have made a girl squirt before. It wasnt like on the porn sites but her reaction was but it didnt shoot all out like they show it on movies could be cause where we was doing it at also. But back to my suggestion I would invest in some lube products to keep the friction going after the motion it may help and to try to focus like mention up top try to have body shaking multiple orgasms. Now that probably would top the cake. Wink wink
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 February 2014):
 Why don't you masturbate often so you aren't quite so horny/chomping at the bit when you do have sex?
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reader, Gauntlet  +, writes (4 February 2014):
As said below, women (every ? I don't know but it could be) are "equipped" to have several orgasms in a row, maybe because nature foreseed these cases when a man can't reach orgasm "fast enough" ?
Anyway, after the first "shot", don't lose your motivation and never forget you are probably gifted for a second one (if not more). If you "lose it" and "gain it" after an hour, maybe should it be a good idea to "fuck in episode": first part, just foreplays 'til your first shot. Advertising break: have a little and romantic meal. Second part: the intercourse. Then dessert. Roman Orgy were often like that, a succession of food and sex slices. Why not giving a try to that ?
Note: in any case, you should masturbate more often during the week in order to evacuate the sexual tension. For men like for women, it's never so good to come to a romp charged like a volcano.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (3 February 2014):
 I was gonna say the same thing as Honeypie! We girls don't have a forced refractory period like guys do. Have you ever tried multiples?? You can either have them over and over in rapid succession, or within mere minutes after an initial sensitivity. But never stop sex because you've climaxed! Or change positions so that there is less sensitivity or even have him change his angle of entry.
I understand being uncomfortable, but that doesn't last long. In fact, from personal experience, I find that the second and third orgasms (and sometimes even more depending on how pent up things are) are even better than the first one...not as explosive or intense but a much deeper and sweeter and longer feeling.
Try on your own for multiples without your guy at first. For us, that uncomfortability can be bypassed by different kinds of stimulation (i.e. g-spot versus direct stimulation. Oral vs. fingers...sex toys, shower heads, etc. Find out exactly when your sensitivity abates...trust me, if you can figure that out, you and your husband will be flying to the moon.
If the discomfort isn't garden-variety sensitivity and borders on pain, you really want to get checked out by a doctor, because that could signal something serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2014): Yes we've tried that... Thing is it's down to timing having busy life's, once I've climaxed my parts are extremely sore for a few hours, I know it doesn't seem like a big problem to some but we are missing on that emotional connection!
I think I'll just to have to stop finding my husband so attractive & take more cold showers, at least to the little ones leave home when we will have more time alone!
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reader, Myau  +, writes (3 February 2014):
 yes, my second girlfriend had this problem.
Was annoying lol.
The only options I can think of are "learn to have multiple orgasams" or try sex, foreplay then sex again and see if it works.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (3 February 2014):
 I have to agree I thought this was a male-omly "problem" but I'll take your word for it and envy your husband in that he must be very pleased with a wife with this "problem". I really have no advice for you it sounds like a very nice "problem" to have if you ask me, in that multiple orgasms are probably not very difficult and thaat would make life very enjoyable for the two of you. Good luck
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 February 2014):
 I would suggest after you climax you two SLOW down and do other sexual things (part from penetrations and then when you feel less uncomfortable you go back to it.
Having climax sooner doesn't mean you can't get another one..
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