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writes:hi, me n my ex have been apart for 5months but i still like her and want her back. i recently started texting her and told her how i felt. she says she dnt want to see me beause she would feel like cheating, so from that i can take she haas a new bf. but if she feels like she might cheat dont that mean she likes me or wants me, also prefers me more than her bf? I cannot get this girl out of my head!What do you think i should do??? thanks
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reader, red1973 +, writes (29 January 2007):
hi there the same all you have to do look after your self familly and the bills keep yourself busy enjoy simple things
i ve learnt that just becouse someone doesnt love us the way you want them to doesnt mean they dont love us with all they have still working at it it keeps me busy fist time here.take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007): Yes I changed the title of the question to what he might think is more suitable. My apologies for getting the question title wrong at first. I hope you are happy with it now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007):
You said, in your posting below,
"i didnt intend for the question to be titled like this, i dont want her out my head! i want to be back with her!!!
And the title heading of this posting is:
"I still want her back but she doesn't want that...How can I get her back? She is constantly on my mind!"
Did I miss something here, but doesn't that sorta, sound the same to you, guy? and it's kinda clear that she doesn't want to date you, if she's not willing to cheat on her new bf. I think it's time for you accept that and deal with it.
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reader, Help!Me! +, writes (28 January 2007):
Aww sweets! I know how you feel.
I'd say forget about it, thats how i did mine.
It was really hard to do at first, took a couple
of tries but i did it and i couldnt be happier,
i have a new love and i love him a whole lot!
I think she's just playing you, trying to feel
loved, like shes wanted everywhere and she obviously
likes playing you around.
Poor sweets, just leave her.
xxx
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reader, Dr Pete + ♥, writes (28 January 2007):
I would say you need to leave this relationship in the past as she is with someone else now.
5 months apart isn't really a long time to get over someone if you really cared for them so these thoughts of her are normal.
You need to concentrate on this though: If she wanted to be with you, she would not be with another guy. You must look at her actions and not allow yourself to believe in wishful thinking.
You will start to get this girl out of your head as soon as you WANT to. At the moment you are clinging on to getting back with her, you are effectively telling your brain "I want to be with her" so your brain is trying to help you out by constantly thinking of her and giving you all these thoughts and feelings about how great it would be. As soon as you realise you want someone new your brain will stop trying to tell you this girl is for you.
You deserve a nice new single girl who can be 100% dedicated for you and who wants to be with you and love you. Delete her number, her email address, spend time around your family and faithful friends and if you think of her remind yourself that she is happy with someone else now. You can do it :)
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reader, Dagwood  +, writes (28 January 2007):
 Hi Wallacda. It's not a very nice thing to love someone and not have them love you back!Im afraid there is nothing you can do about this. If you carry on the communication with her you're just prolonging the hurt. Best thing is to move on, go out with friends and do things that you enjoy. Take sometime for yourself. Whatever helps ease the pain. We just have to let go... it's hard but I'm sure you can do it. Good luck & take care. PS:In time if she decides she still loves you she'll come looking...
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reader, chanohchan +, writes (28 January 2007):
i think maybe she does still think about you but if she has gone straight into another relationship she hasnt had time to get over you nor find herself again after being in a relationship with you. you can either give her time to find out what she wants or give her ask her if she will try agian with you because she wont know how you feel about her until you tell her if she does come back to you work on it real hard and let her know how you feel about her all the time so she knows where she stands.
if she is happy where she is with her new bf they you will have to stay friends or bring it all to a stop!
good luck
chan
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reader, wallacda +, writes (28 January 2007):
wallacda is verified as being by the original poster of the question i didnt intend for the question to be titled like this, i dont want her out my head! i want to be back with her!!!
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