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writes:Well, I met the woman of my dreams two years ago. We have been on and off ever since we met, we lived together up until work forced me to move away. I came home, we decided to give things another round. I still have love for her, but the physical attraction is long gone. She gained 60 pounds, and at 5'8, thats extremely noticable. She stopped doing make up, and caring about how she looked. And despite confronting the issue, she ignores it, and continues the behavior. HOW CAN I SAVE USor is it just lost. Reply to this Question
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reader, SweetindianGirl +, writes (25 September 2010):
jeez ummmmmm i dont think you should break her heart OR leave her bc she gained weight, this is you chance if you really love her and are there for her throughout this stupid time shes going through then shell be with you fo r along time, she has to have interest on her own to dress up! if you try some dumb move like telling her anything you will end up losing her to "omg you think i am ugly?!" and thattttttt drama will NEVER stop! i remember the guy whom i am all about told me once "you dont wear makeup" im sorry, im super gorgeous, i do not need makeup! and since then i thougth i was ugly despite every one telling me and me kNOWIng i am not! so dont do that!
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reader, BassiveMalls +, writes (24 September 2010):
 60 POUNDS HOLY HELL! No man there is nothing you can do. Even if she does manage to lose that much (.00001% chance) she will, I repeat will gain it all back plus some.
Just tell her you can't love someone who doesn't love themselves. It sounds good and it's true.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Well, you can try to motivate her by finding things you can do together. Going for walks, maybe joining a gym together. Heck, sex burns a lot of calories, maybe if you two can have lots of sex, you'll watch some of that weight melt away.
Really, you have to decide what's more important to you. Your love of her for who she is, or your physical attraction to her.
It's hard to make someone understand how something like this is a problem, because in a perfect world, it shouldn't be. It's a shame we don't live in a perfect world.
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reader, Moonknight  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Hello mate, i am a bit confused to how you've been on and off since you both met and you consider her as the woman of your dreams?
Anyways... 60 pounds may be alot, you should firstly ask why is she ignoring it, what is there to be feared for her? this could be the source of her weight gain.
Also mate 5'8 is actually pretty good hight for a female if not tall, so i truely question if she really is the woman of your dreams, because if she was then why do you care so much if she is wearing make up or not?
Surely in your eyes you should always the woman of your dream even without make up?
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