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writes:Hi everyone,My ex and I have been split for many months now. Throughout that time, until mid-July, we were pulling the "confusion" card whenever we saw each other, which wasn't much since we were pulling it long-distance anyways.In the recent few months I've taken to not talking to him, and a few weeks ago we corresponded through email, which was polite, but I feel he's still inpersistant with his feelings. It's hard on me, because I still care for him a lot, but I have to force myself away from this confussion which is hard enough in itself.He's been calling me the past few days. I just texted him, asking him if he was studying tonight, to which he replied, "I'm on a date, and she's cool!"....What does this mean? At first I was more or less infuriated, but I do realize I could be overreacting...but I am also offended because I don't see how someone would *not* think that in this situation that is an asshole remark. Thoughts, anyone? If you're a guy, what does this mean when you say something like that? I'm just flabberghasted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): He just wants you to be jealous. From the sound of his message, explaining you that "she is cool", he is just trying to let you know that he is ok even without you. But its in your hand, to talk to him, and see what the reality hides. His message was too explained. If he really was there with that girl, he could said to you, i have a date, thats all. Anyway, talk to him better, the next time you contact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso, I want to remark to the mods that the title for this is more or less wrong....that's not what it's about. I was just confused what his intentions were, not the fact that he's over "us." Please read what the article is about more carefully next time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey all,
Thanks for the input--I got in touch with him a few hours later, after I had some time to cool off and think about it, and we talked it out. I told him more or less that I was socked and confused because I wasn't sure if he was f*cking with me, but after thinking about it more I figured, though very ungracefully, he was just telling me about something new and exciting. He said he was surprised about my bad vibe but glad it's not an issue. He wants to meet up for coffee sometime, which still confuses me...but with time I think it's something I can do.
Yes, I guess I'm on friend mode to him. It is just strange transitioning...an awkward adjustment for me, but at least it seems to be a lot easier for him.
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reader, Asexy +, writes (5 October 2007):
 Maybe the new girl saw that he got a message, and knew it was from his ex. So he typed that in, showed it to her, and sent it, so that she wouldn't be jealous. If that's the case he really does want it to work with her, so you need to get him out of your system.
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reader, penta +, writes (5 October 2007):
 Two things: either he's put you into the friend mode, and thought he could share this and you'd be happy for him, or he wanted you to get the hint and stop pining for him. Either way, the best thing you can do right now is to move on. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): It could mean one of two things:
He is trying to move on and has found someone that he really enjoyed the company of. He may have being advising you to move on and enjoy yourself
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He wasn't on a date but he wanted you to think he was to hide that he infact still has feelings for you.
Sorry to say but the tone of the message sounds as though it is more likely to be the first option, you need to get this guy out of your head and get on with things, it is obviously over for a reason, right?
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reader, sexi  +, writes (5 October 2007):
 Hi
I think he wanted to let you know that he has someone else for himself. Maybe you should just move on too. If you really look at it, he didnt have to tell you that he was on a date but the fact that he did tell you shows that he wanted you to know.Also because he told you that he was with another shows that he doesnt have much intentions of getting back with you.Just go out and meet other people like he has done. You can however still be his friends but i dont think there would be anything more to come out of this relationship.
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): It means, quite simply, "I'm over you and I've moved on." I guess he was calling you before he got with this latest one.
The next time he texts or emails ignore it. Hit the 'delete' button.
Phil
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