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*ikky
writes:i'm married lady and had an affair with a married manfor 8 months and then we got caught and we needed to end that.its been almost a year and i can't forget about himi think about him day and night miss him so muchplz help me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 February 2013):
 if you have no contact with him and it's been a year and you are still grieving the loss of the illicit affair you need to get some professional counseling.
if you are in contact with him and want to get over him, go NO contact, no phone, no email, no social media.
if you are in contact with him and you both want to be together... well then you must leave your spouse and if he has a partner he must leave his partner then you two can be together.
either way I strongly urge some professional counseling to figure out:
a. why you felt the need for an affair (what is lacking in your marriage)
b. why you felt an affair was a better option than a divorce
c. why you are refusing to let go of him emotionally....
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (7 February 2013):
 Rikky, let it go. 8 months is a long time and he would have been in touch by now if he wanted the two of you to be together. Yes it is sad and hard but it is time to move on. Don't contact him as it will only make you more upset. I am sure he knows where you are and how to contact you, you can always find someone if you want to and he hasn't so now just stop obsessing about him and what might have been and let it go. I do know this is hard as I think about my old relationships all the time but less so when I am fully occupied so keep yourself as busy as you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2013): Well, does he still want you or did he use you for sex. If its the latter i am afraid you need to get help and stop obssessing.
If he still loves you and is available then its time you followed your heart, because you will never be at peace and its not fair to your husband.
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