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writes:Hi everyone. Please could someone help me. I love my boyfriend and he says he loves me back. but lately i have been comfiding in a different guy about my problems and im starting to like him. he knows i have a boyfriend but he doesnt seem to care. He says he also really likes me. I feel torn between two guys. please help x Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006): You need to be fair to the boyfriend that loves you, unless you discuss personal stuff with him alone and give him the opportunity to sort things out with you, nothing will change.
It is very easy for a stranger to appear more exciting and attentive. To new guy, you are a novelty and he is naturally curious. Decide who you like best and if the new one is genuine go for it.
If you are not married or have kids, makes process easier?
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reader, Dr Pete + ♥, writes (29 November 2006):
 You say you love your boyfriend yet you are confiding in another guy, what a confused girl you must be because that does not sound like love to me.
If you love your boyfriend, stop confiding in this other guy and, instead, confid in your boyfriend, or even better, a trained professional.
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reader, eddie  + ♥, writes (29 November 2006):
 You've taken the first of many steps down a slippery slope. First, you've been spending too much time with this other guy, especially knowing how you feel. Second, you're giving this guy all the bate he needs to hook you by discussing all your issues about your boyfriend. This guy is going to say everything you want to hear. Of course he doesn't care that you have a boyfriend. Why should he if you don't? The fact theat you're slagging your guy to the other guy tells him you're vulnerable.
As a man on the prowl, his instincts go into gear and focus on your weaknesses. And those weaknesses are every detail about your troubled relationship with your boyfriend that you give him. Youre setting this up and giving him the tools to work with.
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reader, happytochat  + ♥, writes (29 November 2006):
I think the answer is simple, if you think you have more feelings for this other guy then you need to break it off with your bf. I know many people fear breaking up with someone because it takes alot of guts and effort and they don;t want to hurt them. But think of it this way,the longer you drag the relationship out, the more hurt he is going to be. Get it over and done with. Its the best for both people. good luck.
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reader, Prada +, writes (29 November 2006):
Okay well it is kinda obvious that you like the other guy more than your boyfriend if you are telling everything.So what you need to to is be fair to your boyfriend and tell him that you dont want to be with him anymore,if you do want to be with him you need to drop the other guy
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