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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Ok, so this is my story. I am on separation. Have been married for the past eight years. Not that I wanted to spend the eight years with my wife but thats what counsellors would tell me to forgive and accept my wife after she lied to me about her previous life prior to our marriage. I was trapped in a loveless marriage and that caused me to seek vengeance even though I didn't find it by sleeping with over 30 women. I never did this before I got married but it was better doing than sleeping with someone who cheated me into marriage knowing that counsellors would knock sense into my head and stay with her. The fact is my love felt betrayed when I discovered that she lied to me barely one month into our marriage. The problem now is that she doesn't want to divorce. I don't love her. At the same time I cannot imagine starting a new family. The biggest problem is that I hate women. I see them as Cheaters coz this is the 3rd disappointment. I know that I am not justified with my sleeping around leaving her in the house but I lost my love for her long back.Please help with any suggestions. I am going through a lot so please do not insult me in your answers because they will only cause me more stress.
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reader, Girl-e-girl  +, writes (17 February 2010):
If you don't love her, file for divorce. It doesn't matter if she doesn't want to give it to you- it's just easier that way. I say file, because you don't love her and living with her will just depress you more. If she won't give you a divorce, even though she doesn't love you, and has lied to you about something important to you, and doesn't mind you sleeping around (does she know about that?) then she might have a special interest (like a financial one?) in you, and not love.
Hope things work out.
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