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writes:Today when I sat down at a bar with my mate, we were drinking and then this gorgeous girl sat at the table next to us.She was with her mate...I couldn't take my eyes off her!!As I was chatting with my mate I looked at her and she (just once or twice) quickly looked away.Was there a reason for her to look at me like that? I should have chatted her up......she was GORGEOUS!! Reply to this Question |
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reader, WastedLife  +, writes (22 May 2008):
Just a bit of support from a guy - women don't realize how difficult it is to approach strange women - they want someone that is NOT shy and is totally OK with it, but we all know it's VERY difficult. Yes, do it anyway, and maybe the current bf will start a barfight. Then again, maybe not. It's a tough call, and I'd ask the women who read this to realize how much a guy puts on the line every time he approaches a woman.
I would not approach the bartender on this, just a lesson learned. Maybe you'll see her again, and if you do, gaze gently at her for a bit too long, and if she looks at you AT ALL, walk over at a constant speed and introduce yourself - no lines - just an introduction and conversation - introduce yourself and your friends. Good luck.
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reader, DiovanLestat + ♥, writes (22 May 2008):
 Probably she was shy or maybe she was tempted and married.
"Could have, would have, should have. But you didn't". You have learned a valuable lesson. You should always be brave and go after what you want, because regrets stink and are a waste of time.
Try visiting the bar again, drop your number off with the barman, or drop a note into the one of the papers that have a "I like you, please get in touch" column. eg (metro, standard, guardian...etc....)
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reader, babymamma626 +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Well since you didn't talk to her you wouldn't know. But honestly not every woman that gives you a quick glance is even remotely attracted to you. It is a bar you know? And I'm sure she probably noticed that you were STARING at her and that is a little freaky. Women are NOT attracted to shy men or freaky men. You should have just talked to her instead of staring.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): nothing you really can do unless you see her again. if you really like her try going back to the bar because she might be there again. don't beat yourself up about not chatting her up. im sure there have been and will be a lot more times when that will happen.
Hope i helped.
Keep me posted
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