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writes: any i like does n,t show any interested me at all they don,t even ask my name or where i am.i never ever get asked out and i never even got my first boyfriend and let alone my first kiss.and isn,t due to lack of trying nether,guys just aren,t interested me that way.all this rejection up sets and i have 11 years of rejection alreadyhave fellas any solutions because i don,t understand the male brainits seem to me its all the guy wants.he never never gets hurt by the girl he fancies.but they,ll hurt the girls they don,t fancy and make sure they know they not wanted like they done to me. boasting and barging about the new girlfriend while the girl he rejected in the same he is in the same listen others about his new girl.its problem that much deeper then looks and personality its some else.its must be me.but i don,t know what it is.may be i wasn,t beant to be like that way.i have tried the looks and personality and still end up on the rejection.i was dressed nice and make and slim too.the same thing i still got rejected .nothing works for dressing nice or not.nothing works for meplease not crizing me i feel bad enough Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): But regardless of what anyone says to you, I hope that you realize that you are a special person worthy of love, just like everyone else. the fellas told me i wasn,t knowing or bothering with it ever and that i was b*tch.and other girls are worth more then me .they were knowing i wasn,t.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (9 August 2009):
 Stop going after guys and wait for the right one to find you. So you've been rejected ever since you were nineteen? That sucks. I'm sorry that this has been happening to you and I hope that the right one finds you. Some of these guys, from the way you described one of them(bragging about his new gf after he rejected you in front of you), I doubt they even deserved you to begin with.
Maybe you could try going online-there is a lesser chance of rejection there, and usually people online who want nothing to do with you will either just stop talking to you or be bluntly honest with you about what is wrong, since they can't see you face to face, or they know that you don't know where they live, so they are bluntly honest.
But regardless of what anyone says to you, I hope that you realize that you are a special person worthy of love, just like everyone else.
Only go online if you think that you can handle bluntness. I have been insulted online before, so I know what it's like.
Or you could get involved in the community, charities, or a church (instead of the online approach, or both), and people will see that inner light in you, and sometimes guys fall in love with that. My husband thought that I was attractive, but he is also intrigued by my inner strength.
Also, work on your self-esteem. Look up techniques to build it, because I can only imagine what going through all of that must've done to your self-eteem. And you will need self-esteem, or all of it when you do get in a relationship and you are learning to be assertive and standing up for yourself when talking to your man about certain issues you two might be having, so that a compromise can be reached.
You have many years of your life ahead! Trust me! The dating scene is not over for you just yet! There are men out there looking for mature-thirty something year old women!
Also realize that you don't need a man to be happy, because you have you!
I am here if you need to talk.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): First of all - You're trying too hard. People are very good at sensing insecurity and neediness a mile off ... Don't try to impress people. Develop some self esteem (search articles on Google), get yourself busy with stuff to do throughout your week and you'll be radiating and attracting who you want very soon :D!!!
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