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I really want to have sex, but I don't want to rush into things!

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Question - (30 November 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 1 December 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I've been going out with this guy a month now, and he's the best thing that has ever happened to me. he is lovely, caring and he is just a sweetheart. to celebrate our 1 month anniversary, we gave each hand jobs. it was great!

but now i really want to have sex with him, but i dont want to rush into things, i want to wait at least until our 3 month anniversary, but i want to have exciting moments like that again! is there any way i can keep the romance like that without having full or oral sex? thank you!

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A female reader, Bee4ever United States +, writes (1 December 2010):

There are always going to be great guys and yours does sound special. 3 months is not enough time to know If he's the right one though. This is a big decision for you that you can't undo. Ask yourself...What type of girl do you want to be? Guys lose respect for the girl who gives it up so easily. Make him earn it. It will not be easy but just think how great it will be when you don't have to question if it's the right thing to do. In the meantime...hand jobs and perhaps at 6 months blowjobs? This won't be an issue if he cares. Be safe when you do and make sure you make this decision carefully.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010):

GermanMan

"(i know that sounds sick but it will also prep you for when you actually do have sex)"

What's "sick" about masturbation?

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A female reader, Laura Joanne United Kingdom +, writes (30 November 2010):

Laura Joanne agony auntmy answer to you is... just wait!

The more you lead up to sex the more exciting it gets.

There is nothing wrong with just kissing, touching and just spending time together.

There is no need to rush in to sex at all, and if this guy really likes you he will respect your wishes as well.

You should just enjoy yourself together, you're both young. Just have fun, make sure he is the right one for you and enjoy each others company. When it does happen you will both feel comfortable with each other because you waited and you got to know each other a lot more before rushing in to anything! :)

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A male reader, GermanMan United States +, writes (30 November 2010):

Sure, there are many ways to keep that romance alive! I had manyy boyfriends in high school and still kept my 'v-card' until i was 19. The longer you wait for something, the more special it will be.

When i was your age i dated someone for 6 months and still did not have intercourse with him. It got really close one time but he respected when i backed out. (that's when you know you have someone that cares) How did we keep that romance? We did what you did, hand jobs, no oral. Passionately kissing. Hell, you could even release some of your own sexual feelings with masturbation before you guys go out. (i know that sounds sick but it will also prep you for when you actually do have sex)

I'm sure you already know this, but make sure you are on the pill or have good protection before you do actually have sex. It's a myth that you can't get pregnant your first time. You can never be too safe.

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