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writes: Hi! I had a question with my break-up. It happened a month ago and I'm pretty sure I'm over it... but not completely sure. I still see her in the school hallways somtimes and I hate it. I NEVER ever want to see her again. Is this typical? I wasn't sure if it meant that I was over her or not. Like if I'm in the same room as her I have to get out of there as fast as possible. Thanks!
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reader, Lilly223  +, writes (3 January 2007):
 When you are 'getting over' a relationship it is typical to go through this stage. Often immediately after a break up you are sad, then that transforms in to anger, and then finally acceptance. Acceptance isn't to say that you want to be her best friend, just that you are finally okay with it. Each stage takes it's own time, and you will move on to the next stage when you are ready. Yes, it's normal to feel like you never want to see this person again, but it is also normal to eventually decide that seeing them from afar really isn't as horrible as it seems right now. Don't stress this, it's just a part of the healing process. Do exactly what you are doing, leave the room when she is around if that makes you feel better, think evil thoughts about her if that helps (just DON'T act on them!!) This will pass.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (3 January 2007):
 sometimes when we split up we get emotional and sad , but with some split ups we can get angry and mad. Sometimes this can be because of how we were treated or just because how it ended. i split up with my ex because of how he treated me and i dont want to ever see him again an i get angry at him for how he treated me. its been a long time now since i have seen him so i may feel different towards him (tho i doubt it lol).just try and relax when around her i know its hard because youre at the same school but you need youre education more than to let her ruin it for you.. hope this helps xxx
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (3 January 2007):
 I think it is typical. Time will eventually soothe your feelings, but it hurts for a while. I still get butterflies in my belly when I see an old girlfriend out and about. . . and it's been twenty years. She is married with children, and I can talk to her. But I still feel a little jittery. I don't think I have feelings for her, but who knows? It's all good.
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