A
female
age
36-40,
*ollie
writes:I have a problematic situation.I spent a year with guy A, fell in love and had so many fun times together, built a future together and get along like a house on fire. The draw back - his temper is huge when he has been drinking especially!! i have been held up against my car by my jaw and shouted in my face by him. We split up a month ago and he still wants me backHowever, he wants to change and is going to seek help.Then there is guy B whom i accidently began seeing literally the day after a broke up with guy A. He is so lovely, kind and caring. He loves me for i am and will drop everything at a whim to see me. I am seeing both guys. Guy A has no idea I am still seeing guy B (as he threatened to ‘do’ him when he found out I went to the cinema one time with him). But guy B knows the situation and just wants me all to himself.Guy A is really trying to make us work. I love him, well I think I do. But if I really loved him would I be sleeping with guy B?Basically, Do I choose guy A who I think I love but who could never change? Or guy B who is sweet and loving but I just don’t have the same passion for him as I do A?
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (4 June 2008):
 How about going for Guy C.
I would not bank on the first one changing, he probably wont, and the next thing you could very likely be on the end of a punch.
And Guy B, well! bless him for being so nice! but honey you dont deserve him.
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reader, Star_07  +, writes (4 June 2008):
 Well, you can not be with Guy A while he is "working" on himself. He really needs to be alone on this one. I don't understand why you want to string Guy A along while you are with Guy B. And poor Guy B who is really trying to support you and understand you but is getting sideswiped by your love for Guy A! He is sitting there, being a great friend and lover to you and he KNOWS he is not #1!
Personally, I would forget about Guy A. He has problems he needs to work on by himself. Although I dont think you should be with either one of them at this point, you certainly can not continue to make Guy B #2.
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