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I really love this guy, so how can I get him to trust me again?

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Question - (7 October 2012) 6 Answers - (Newest, 8 October 2012)
A female United States age , anonymous writes:

I met this guy online in April, we talked, enjoyed one another and start talking about sharing a life together, but one night I log back on the site and he confronted me about it the next day.

I really hurt him, I apolgized and gave him some space to get over it, he did and we took things slowly.

I went to visit him and I felt so strange that entire weekend. even if he had forgiven me.

When I came home I didn't hear from him that much, I tried txting him and sometimes he would text me back.

I felt that he had lost interest in me, so I logged back on the same site again he called and confronted me again, but this time he said that he could never trust me again and he was done with me.

I love this guy, so how can I get him to trust me and back into my life again? I really love this guy.

Hurting for him

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2012):

How does he know you was on the site he was on it himself to know you was there foget him and move on life is way to short

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A female reader, BondGirl72 United States +, writes (7 October 2012):

BondGirl72 agony auntSo..........you logged onto a dating site *twice*? Do you honestly think he should be reacting this way? I mean, seriously. If he is going to react this way because you logged onto a site, why in the world would you want to stay with him?

I could see if you actually flirted with a guy on the site or went out with one, but to log on? I think you need to let this guy go. He is not worth being with if he is going to be so dramatic over such a simple issue. He is obviously not too mature when it comes to relationships, or else he just doesn't like you enough to want to work it out. I know that is harsh because you need help, but really, how is he going to react when something major comes about if he's reacting this way over something so minor? You really need to let him go.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2012):

Guys I logged on to the dating website were we met, but I never open up a account. The 1st time it happened, he forgave me, but this 2nd time he told me he could never forgive me and I lost him. I had no intentions in dating anyone on that site ever again, because I love him. I made a mistake, I hurt him, I need help guys, do you belieive in second chances. I forgot to mention that it's a long distance relationship. How can I gain his trust back for the second time?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2012):

He sounds very controlling are you sure you want him to forgive you? From what I can see you have done nothing wrong. Also would he not have to be on the site to know you logged in? Don't you think its strange he spys on what your doing online? After all he must be going on the site also have you confronted him with that.

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A female reader, BondGirl72 United States +, writes (7 October 2012):

BondGirl72 agony auntThe only thing you did was log on a site? This guy must be really insecure and controlling. I do not think logging onto a site one time warrants this type of reaction unless you have done something major in the past that you are not telling us about.

I know this is not what you want to hear, but if this man is going to be this controlling over your life, I would consider whether you *really* want him in your life at all. What if you happen to shop at a place where this is a good-looking man present? Is he going to throw a fit and quit talking to you then too? The fact is, you logged onto a site...and how did he find out about it unless he was logged on himself or snooping? What you've done isn't criminal, or even being unfaithful yet he is treating you as if it is. I would dump him.

I know you care about him, but look at what your life will be like if you continue on with this guy.

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A female reader, Lucky786 United Kingdom +, writes (7 October 2012):

Lucky786 agony auntI don't understand what you've done wrong here that you need to be forgiven?

From your account, I think you've done enough. if he doesn't want to forgive you then that's up to him. Why do you want to be forgiven by somebody who enjoys seeing you miserable?

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