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13-15,
LoveObsession
writes:Now - i know that quite a few people have wrote about having a crush on their female teachers, but...my situation seems a little bit different...See,the whole school found out about my crush on a female teacher....and the school b**** thought it was a good idea to TELL the teacher herself.I had been deliberately de-touring myself around the school just to see her. I'd tell my maths teacher i was going to the toilet when I was actually just going two floors up!!!I'd take a few pictures of her in class too.I suppose im still doing all of that now but since she has found out it has been SO much harder!I'm not sure if she believes those girls. It doesn't seem that way.I REALLY love this teacher - ive never felt this way.It's not just a simple attraction - i feel strongly for her. She's the most beautiful thing and sometimes it feels like i can't breath when she speaks to me...Any advice??
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reader, LoveObsession +, writes (9 October 2007):
LoveObsession is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks.
Sadly, the teacher wouldn't want to get involved with me anyway!! =P
It's easier said than done -- she just seems so perfect!
It's got to the point that i can hardly SPEAK around her!! =O
Yes.
I know thats what a crush is like but i find it so hard to see her faults etc.
but....3
i REALLY want her =:O!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): I am going to say this once...this will pass and let it. I am a teacher and I have seen too many careers ruined by this sort of thing. We need people to enter the profession...not leave it because of situations like this. This young lady has put years in completing her teacher training so she can do just that...teach. If you continue with this you could put her career in jeopardy...I have seen it happen more than once. I do not doubt that you are attracted but you need to face facts here...she is your teacher and for now..at least it is not meant to be nor should it be. I have known of a couple of situations where teachers might have dated former students somewhere down the road...but not situations where the relationship became serious...just too many concerns on the part of the teachers about the fact that it did not seem right.
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reader, rcn  + ♥, writes (7 October 2007):
 There is a difference between being obsessed and being a pervert. You have a crush, that's not being perverted.
I don't think talking to your teacher is needed if she is acting like these girls are feeding her a line, she may not need a confirmation from your end.
I want you to think about it this way. This behavior is not always going to be there (95% chance) During this period you are going to have hormones acting like their doing jumping jacks in your system. With that, sometimes you won't feel as attracted to others. Other times they will take a simple (she's cute) and boost it many times on top of what it usually would be. Don't worry about being a perv, chances are you experiencing one of the hormone boosts.
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reader, Agony-Hannah +, writes (7 October 2007):
DON'T Get Involved With Her.
There are SOO many situations where the student and teacher are in a relationship- also, she might already be in a relationship!
There will be a girl who will be the same age as you- and you'll forget all about the teacher.
You can't help how you feel, but you can block it out.
Save a lot of tears, stress and sleepless nights.
Best wishes x
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reader, baby duck + ♥, writes (7 October 2007):
 Hmmm ... at this point, no, I would not try to contact the teacher regarding this. If you focus on your learning and growing, this will all pass without further incident. If you try to talk to her alone, it could be misconstrued, even if your intentions are to merely clear the air. I know its tough dealing with these feelings but they're paving the way for future emotional challenges. You are going to be just fine.
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reader, LoveObsession +, writes (7 October 2007):
LoveObsession is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice.
I'm 14 years old and i promise im not a pervert!
LOL
i know taking pictures of her was wrong, but i only did it the once.
The singles website really helped so thank you for that (;
Do you think i should say anything to my teacher...try and clear the air maybe?
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reader, baby duck + ♥, writes (5 October 2007):
Whether you're a young teen, middle-aged or in your golden years (yes, people decades older than you have these feelings, too), those intense feelings are from hormones. Don't take that to mean that I am dismissing your feelings. Far from it. What you are feeling is very real, it just is not, by definition, 'love'.
This could help you understand it a little:http://www.singlescafe.net/stages.html
Anyway, you're young and this is brand new and overwhelming. You might even think that no one has ever felt this way for someone before. That's okay; the truth is, it's normal.
So, my advice is: accept that you are on an emotional roller-coaster. Also understand that she probably does not feel the same way. If she did and she acted on it, she could lose her job or ... well, I won't even go there. She probably thinks you're a sweet kid and figures you'll be a bit embarrassed when your feelings pass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): 1] Of course you've "never felt that way" -- you're only 13-15 (it doesn't say exactly how old you are)... but you've only just really come into the age of having feelings of attraction for someone, so naturally you'll feel strongly the first time!
2] They're called 'crushes' for a reason -- because they feel crushing & painful. You're not alone in that regard!!
3] The teacher won't think a thing of a student having a crush on her - she'll take it in her stride & just put it down a crush which will fade in time (they always do)... it's probably not the first time a student has had a crush on her, nor will it be the last. The fact you're female too would mean zip to her.
Your teacher has got more important things to worry about than something like this - workload, family, mortgage, bills etc... seriously, don't worry, she won't think twice about it. While this seems huge for you right now, the school b*tch will most likely make someone else's life a misery next week & this will be old news anyway. Just ride it out with good grace.
PS - probably a good idea to stop taking pics of your teacher in class.
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (5 October 2007):
Obsessed would be a good word. You do realize your teacher did not spend thousands of dollars for school to get a date. There are less expensive places to do that.
Do you know what professional courtesy is? That's where you're in a professional setting, such as school, and even though you're having difficulties containing your drool, it would be inappropriate to have contact other than professional contact.
Did you know if someone, or a parent gets concerned about your feelings for this teacher, if they at all think something has gone one other than school, she can have her license pulled and have to change careers?
You need to come to the realization that even though these feelings are there, it would be wrong to act at all on them.
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