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writes:Ok on valentines night i went to a dating quiz night with a female colleague from work. really i went to keep her company as she is desperate to meet a man, and she had no one else to go with. To cut a long story short a girl turned up who completely bowled me over, she was totally a perfect match for me. We shared loads of eye contact, smiles, and chatted a bit. At the end of the night she went and i kicked myself for not asking her out. I got in touch with the organisers and they forwarded my number on to her. To my suprise i got a text from her saying she was pleasantly suprised that she had my number given to her. We text alot over the coming days, then eventually chatted. We met for a drink last Thursday and got on really well, and i gave her a lift home at the end of the evening. Since then we have text a few times, she sent a text saturday morning saying she hopes im ok and to enjoy my weekend. I text back saying we will have to arrange another date. I have not heard from her since, ok so its only been two days and im probably clutching at straws. If she diden't like me woulden't she have cut the contact off after the first date?. I sent her a text at 3 this afternoon and have not heard anything yet. Im getting paranoid that she does not want to know. I really like this girl and want to see her again. Could she be playing it cool and not want to appear to keen?.Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): it depends on how you acted that day and if she was having fun, make sure when your around her make her feel comfortable and secure make her laugh and then any girl espeacially this girl will like to be around you and you'll be a good future couplegood luck dudep.s. she better be as good as she soundslol
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): say on text how you feel tell her to reply
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (25 February 2008):
 Wow, normally its the other way round and women start fretting about why guys do not get in touch with them after two days and go into panic mode.
I'm sure she does like you, but as the other aunts have said you do not want to come over as clingy and needy. Give her time to get back to you, she may be busy going about her own life, which is what you should do too. If she does not get in touch, say after a week or two give her a call and arrange to take her out for the day and do things like go to a place of interest like an art gallery.
When I first started dating my fella, we went to Tate Modern in London and then went for a bite to eat we had an absolute blast because we both have an interest in Art.
There are so many places to go on a date, which does not have to be restricted going to pubs. Good luck and keep us posted on what happens next my love. Dusky xxx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): Stop panicking! She may be busy, not everyone has time to text back to people. Just be patient and wait, if by the end of two week you havent heard then i dont think you will. Did you make sure that she was infact single? if she doesnt want to get in touch then there is nothing in the world that you can do about it, just sit back and wait, if she doesnt then there are plenty more lovely girls out there just waiting to be with you.
take care
xx
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reader, Ask oldersister  + ♥, writes (25 February 2008):
 I think you need to calm down. You just met her. From a female's point of view, when a guy contacts me too much (that means every day, definitely too much, even if I like him a lot!) I actually start to feel less special. The reason for this is because the guy that is doing this is assuming he already wants to be with me even though he doesn't know me. The guy is wanting the relationship more than the person. I want someone to take things slowly that will respect my time and not feel threatened that I have a life. This means, when they call me they are setting a date out in advance to see me because they understand, I AM DATING OTHER GUYS and I have other interests. The guy that needs constant interaction from the start, is a guy that does not even give me the opportunity to wonder if I like him because he is "too in my face". He is also ASSUMING that I have nothing better to do than alter my whole routine in order to accommodate him which I will not do for someone I don't know.
Don't you want to be with someone that doesn't just jump into a relationship like she's just been waiting on the sidelines? Does that make you feel special?
If it has been only two days and you are obsessed and paranoid, you are making this woman your "higher power". No one wants that responsibility, it's not even realistic.
Go exercise, hang out with friends, etc.. I guarantee, you'll be more interesting to her. Stop texting, call her with a purpose other than to let her know you think about her all the time but don't really know her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): i think you should give it a day, then text her and tell her to just be honest with you. does she want to keep seeing you or not, if she does not text back than she probly is just tring to blow you off and you should just move on. but trust me if she does like you than she will text back. you never know what is going on in her life maybe she is not ready for a relationship right now. maybe she wants to hang out but has something going on she has to take care of right now, you just never know! give her space and if she wants to be with you she will come around
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