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writes: I really need help. I have not slept in 2 weeks. I am seeing my girlfriend for four years. For the last year it has been long distance. This has recently started to get to me in that we only see each other once a month. I truly thought this was the girl I would spend the rest of my life with, but she is in no hurry for me to move closer to her. I'm not sure I want to up my life and move to another city. People have said I should talk to her and let her know my feelings. Alas, there is a complication! Two weeks ago, a girl started in work from another country. The minute I set eyes on her I was in love. My stomach feels funny around her, I blush when she speaks to me. I think about her nonstop. tShe asked me to go for a coffee with her, which I did. Nothing happened and we have arranged to mee again. I am determined nothing will happen. This girl is unaware I have a partner. What do I do? Stop meeting this girl and risk losing the love of my life, or stay in the relationship I am in and be unhappy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2006): YOU MUST Tell ur girlfriend a.s.a.p.!
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reader, weeblondiehalfpint +, writes (31 December 2005):
At I this stage I think you may have already decided that it is over with your current girlfriend, lets face it even when we are in steady relationships you will always find someone who turns your head when you are walking down the street or you give a sideways glance to when your shopping, but what is happening here is way past that when you can actually see yourself in a relationship with someone else it spells the end of your current situation.There are a few questions you need to ask yourself when you think about your life about growing old who is there beside you? This new co-worker may really not be all that it may just be a case of the grass is always greener!What you need to do is explain to your co-worker that you have a partner but are in a long distance relationship which then sets the ground rules for any future meetings for the momment at the friendship level! What if one of your girlfriends friends where to see you out together the decision to split or not may not be yours anymore!!Book some time off work go and surprise your girlfriend spend some time with her even if its only a few hours and find out how you really feel about her maybe you just feel cheated because you dont feel your in a 'real' relationship with the love and support of a partner day to day, go and see her talk it over dont make any rush decisions you have been together a long time, to just throw it away Good Luck
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reader, Amber_wave +, writes (25 December 2005):
At this point it looks like you are leading on your coworker. Let her know that you are in a relationship before accepting any more invitations. If you then break up, let her know that, too, and see what happens.
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reader, QOTU +, writes (21 December 2005):
 If you are unhappy with your current girlfriend, then there is no need to stay with her. This other girl should be made aware of your partner, though.
Just break it up with your girlfriend gently. She obviously doesn't mind the fact that you're apart - maybe she doesn't want to rush you?
All I know is that, if you're unhappy, then that's not a good relationship to be in - grab ahold of the "love of your life" or you'll continue being unhappy! :-D
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (21 December 2005):
You know the answer already. Go with your heart and stop long distance travelling.
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