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*oreverandaday
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for ten months.It was perfect, but not for long.We fought. It was generally his fault, him saying the wrong things, and I would get so hurt that I would break up with him, promising myself that I would leave him behind and find someone better, to be treated better.Him and I knew that we were going to get through anything. We came running back to eachother with flying colors, our love was unstoppable.I honestly don't know what happened now. He says his love for me has faded. He said that all the love he ever had for me is all gone, and it's been only two days since our break up. The reason for our break up was because the love making seemed PHYSICAL. we fought wWAYY too much and we havnt' had a "good day" laughing with eachother having goodtimes, in forever.I pushed him away from me, kept pushing and pushing, thinking that he was soon going to break up with me, because i knew that things (for him anyways) were starting to fade. and He reminded me over and over again that his love for me is still strong and nothing has changed but i didnt trust him.and i finally did push him away, and i hurt him.i hurt him and he is absolutley heartbroken and very strongly convinced that he doesn't lvoe me anymore.he says he cant see himself with anyone else, but he cant see himself with me.what am i going to do, i need to prove to him that we're strong. i need to fix him, to be his remedyi just... dont know what to do.
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reader, foreverandaday +, writes (1 September 2008):
foreverandaday is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh just an update: He left to his cabin in the Okanagan with his family, so we broke up and havnt seen eachother in about four days. He is coming home tonight, and wants to see me... How am I supposed to act?
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reader, foreverandaday +, writes (1 September 2008):
foreverandaday is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, it's really kind of odd because those were his exact words. He told me that he had no clue what he wants, or what he needs.. I guess all I can do is wait, I just hope I'd be able to know how long it will take him and what to expect after he gets his thoughts together and figures out what he wants... I mean I need time to get myself together as well.
Still in a rut, but thank you.
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reader, foreverandaday +, writes (1 September 2008):
foreverandaday is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much. that acutally helped me so much, because those were his exact words. he said he doesnt know what he wants, or what he needs.
thank you
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reader, bg  +, writes (1 September 2008):
This may not be what you want to hear, but I'll say it anyway. He doesn't have a clue what he wants. We were all 15yo at one time, but I'm also not so old that I can't remember those times.I'm sure he was happy when you were together, but at his age (assuming you are about the same) he's got too much going on in his head to really figure it out. Be friendly, be supportive, but don't expect that you alone will be the solution to his heartache. As teenagers guys sometimes forget to look foreward, to look at the big picture. Maybe its youth, maybe hormones... who knows. He needs to make up his own mind, and sort out his emotions. It can be hard to wait, but its not your fault, being young is just hard on the head.
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