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writes: hi, 1)first question: im 14 and never kissed anyone before :( but at night i always kiss my hand and pretend its the person i fancy. is this normal or is there something wrong wiv me? does everyone do this?2)second question: will kissing my hand help me become a better kisser?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): I have heard that it is very good way to practice kissing. My younger sister, about your age, does the same thing and sometimes with her mirror. It's very strange to walk in and see her kissing her mirror though I must admit.
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reader, ariel  +, writes (3 September 2006):
 Hahahahaha! David you are so funny.I also use to practice on my hand.Once my sister and I thought we would see what it felt like(eew!!!)
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (3 September 2006):
 When I first started to learn to kiss, I used to kiss my hand. I was bad though and eventually received a slap.
I decided it was time to move on to the real thing.
P.S I have received a few slaps since too, lol
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reader, miszy +, writes (1 September 2006):
 hi your completely normal i went through the same fing i always worried tht i cudnt kiss or actually do it rite and i was scared wot theyd fink but have you got a reli close m8 i mean a reli close m8 tht you can trust why dont you ask her/him to tell u wether you can c wot it feels like b4 it comes too the real fing... thats wot i did and it put my confidence levels rite up and wen it came too the moment i wasnt afraid so its up 2 you wether to do wot i suggest but make sure its sum1 u can trust xxx rose take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2006): of course it's normal, dont worry about it. I used to do the same thing and (I've been told) I'm a fantastic kisser so I think maybe it does make you better.
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reader, bonym +, writes (28 August 2006):
 True, I take pleasure in being anything but normal!!!!! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2006): Who wants to be normal?
I used to "french" kiss my pillow. Until I realized that I wasn't frenching but just smooshing my nose into it. I found french kissing was with open mouth and tongue.
I gave that up in a hurry and found a boy to kiss when I was in grade 7. Still talk to the guy.
It's harmless.
But if you start humping the pillow, just make sure you use protection to avoid an unwanted pregnancy.
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (28 August 2006):
 Your posting is refreshingly innocent, dear and it truely made me smile. I think most of us have done that "kissing the hand" bit at one time or other in our formative, teen years. I agree with everyone else, it's very normal. Not sure if it will make you a better kisser. Like DrPete says, kissing will just come naturally to you when you kiss the right person, someday. Take care, dear
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reader, Dr Pete + ♥, writes (28 August 2006):
 I seem to remember kissing my hand when I was around your age so it must be completely and entirely normal behaviour.
Kissing your hand probably won't make you a good kisser - kissing comes naturally when you do it for real and it is different with each individual. Kissing can be very intimate and special, and I think around 6,489 times better than doing it on your hand.
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (28 August 2006):
The best way to learn to kiss is to kiss, funnily enough.
When somebody does kiss you, try to follow their lead, like in a dance, do what they do. Move mouth slowly and gently, rather than rapid movements and dont tense. Stay as relaxed as possible, then go with the flow.
Kissing hand can help with technique, but cannot help you learn to kiss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2006): Hey don't worry we have all done it,i done it when i was your age.I don't think that kissing your hand will make you a better kisser because believe me it is so much different when it happens.
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reader, bonym +, writes (28 August 2006):
No there is absolutely nothing wrong with you at all. But as Yos correctly said the only way to be good at something is to actually do it. For example a pianist can only become as good as Beethoven if not better if he practices as often as possible. The more you practice the better you become. Becoming a "better" kisser also is a question of individual preferences. I am not sure what makes a "great" kisser but at the end of the day, a kiss is just a kiss. xXx
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reader, Yos  + ♥, writes (28 August 2006):
 It's very normal! Lots of people have done it, though most won't admit to it. People practice kissing all sorts of things (I don't recommend a cactus btw).
As for whether it will make you a better kisser? No, not really :( The only way to get good at kissing is to kiss someone. You can expect to be very nervous the first few times you do kiss... which makes it very difficult! However you get used to it quickly and then it gets much easier.
I should add that movies and TV showing kissing are not much help either. People in the real world kiss rather differently than people in movies. They always seem to miss out the bit where someone has spinach stuck between their teeth, and then the other person sneezes!
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