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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:hi, my girlfriend and i have been dating for a while now. i plan to propose to her in a short while and she is aware of it.the problem i'm having is on the intamacy side of our relationship. i have been patient over the period of our relationship but i'm starting to think their might be a problem on her side. i have made advances and have tried kissing her on numerous occassions yet she ends up cutting it short and not allowing it to advance further. i have discussed this with her and she says she is not sure why she does it. my aim here is not sex entirely. i can wait for that. its the passionate kisses the occassional huffing and puffing and the oral sex in any form that i am looking for. just a sign that we could have a comfortable sex life within our marriage. the biggest problem is that i dont even get an open mouth kiss unless she is jealous of an ex or unless i complain. this is not the way i want it to be. she should want to kiss me. she was like that when we first met. what happened?how do i open her up? help her to deal with the problem without making it worse or offending her?i dont know if i can go into marriage with someone i cant have an intimate relationship with. everything else is there but it feels like i'm dating a family member. Kind Regards,confused!
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reader, nicola79  +, writes (26 February 2007):
 Is she younger than you? it sounds to me that she isnt ready for this sory of relationship my love.
You need to sit down and ask her if there is anything bothering her and has anything happened to her in the past?
Has she got to obay a religion?
I wouldnt get engaged just yet,I know you love her or you wouldnt be asking for advice,but this relationship just may not ment to be.
Just say to her that if you are planning to be together forever than you need to know how she feels and if she has some sort of problem than she needs to talk it out with you so you can try to help.
Sex isnt the be all end all but it is inportant and if its just one sided than its just not going to work.
please keep me posted and if you need help with anything, than please do contact me. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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