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writes:I am confussed i never see my boyfriend only once a week because he is always busy playing footy or going to see his dad...and he puts me last all the time but he is a ded romantic person and shows alot of care ..i want to see him more am i being selfish?? I prentend to him that i am happy with this but i am not really but aleast seeing my bf once a week is better than none at all Reply to this Question
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS +, writes (11 April 2007):
 hes the one being very selfish, he sounds like my ex, only fittin me into his busy schedule when he wanted to but when i saw him he was all butterin me up n all but no way after 3 years of that i couldnt carry on and thats the way ur headed if you dont start thinkin about yourself for once. i have learnt that if you want something youve got to speak and damn right get it! tell him that your not happy with the way thigns are going, because hes not making any effort in moving the relationship forward and you want to see each other more. go with him to football and cheer him on, go with him to see his dad (but not all the time) if hes not itnerested in involving you in his life then hes not worth any of your time. you need to think about yourself and what your gaining out of a one dy a week relationship....
hope this helps x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): for him to be happy at seeing you once a week,shows he aint really interested in a relationship,you can never be to busy to put your relationship first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): hi, once a week doesnt seem a lot, but he doesnt know you want to see him more because you havent told him.
Communication is a foundation of a relationship and you need to be honest when it comes to your feelings. If something could be better, then tell him. Tell him you want to see more of him and you long for the one day a week that you get to see him.
Best wishes,
Jamie
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reader, peppersalt +, writes (11 April 2007):
maybe that is all that he wants right now, or maybe he just does put you last (personally I'd be insulted if my bf chose football over me every time when it was one or the other). you don't know which of these it is.
the main point is that it's making you unhappy, so you need to reach a compromise, see each other twice a week? if he won't then you need to find out why. and if you still don't know and it stays at once a week, personally I'd end it. there are loads of people out there to date, some of which will want to see you as much as you're happy with and some who will probably wanna see you way more than makes you comfortable! my point is, don't stay with him seeing him once a week just because 'it's better than nothing'. because 'nothing' isn't necessarily the other option.
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