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I only attract men who focus on my physical appearance. How do I change this?

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Question - (23 July 2016) 3 Answers - (Newest, 26 July 2016)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I've never dated, and it makes me insecure that I might not be good enough for dating. I'm a very attractive girl, and everyone loves my looks, I had 3 guys purposed for me this year, and it's just because of my looks. Don't get me wrong but, I hate the fact that I'm attracting the wrong type of guys, and they only approach me just because I'm pretty, and when we talk, they just focus on my physical appearance, and won't take my conversations seriously. Most of the time, guys that I might be interested in are shy, or maybe not interested in me.. I mean, I approached a few guys before, and they were the shy type, but they acted all cold and uninterested, which made me concerned that I might not have an interesting personality. And some guys do act like gentlemen at first, but after a while, they start talking dirty and get very touchy in a very uncomfortable way. What do I do?

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A male reader, Serpico United States +, writes (26 July 2016):

Newsflash - if you dont want to date people who focus on your physical appearance, date women.

Men are biologically programmed to be attracted to woman by primarily visual stimuli. Just the way it is.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2016):

When your an attractive female you definatly tend to get this problem, the good guys are intimidated by you and the players are all over you lol So it makes for more work for you to weed out the bad guys and try and talk to the good guys. You will get the hang of it :) I suggest joining a hobby group or class to find someone with similar interest . Good luck

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (23 July 2016):

chigirl agony auntWhat to do? You need to gain more experience in handling guys and understanding how to work them. It's try and fail, no easy fix. You have to risk rejection time and again, and you have to just try and try, and then you will slowly get the grasp on it.

At your age, extremely few people know what they are doing or what type they are looking for, and there is nothing unique or special about your situation. It's normal to experience what you do, and the situation changes with experience.

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