A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Well this has become a doozy. I started at this company and this guy who worked with me has been trying to come on to me since that time. He is married. I have to admit I am extremely attracted to him. Unfortunately I have went to lunch with him 3 times nothing has happened and I know it is the wrong thing to do. He is a manager of another office. He has been trying to get me to work for him and I don't think it is just for that. I of course had not. I have been up for a promotion where I would be on his level in another office but the position is on hold now for 6 months. I was told Friday he would be coming down and working with me in my office. We have gone from 6 salesreps to myself and now my well married man. He told me I was going to get you one way or another. This is very very hard for me and I am very very attracted to him and we just get along. I know I know he wants what he wants. I think I have fallen for him awhile ago but have just had to keep strong now I am in this situation. I haven't been able to sleep for the weekend and good think he is gone for a week. This will be the hardest thing I have ever had to do resist...has anyone had this experience or can help me. Our one lunches did not seem like a lunch but a date it is sooo weird and I am feeling very scared how can you help what you feel!.
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (7 April 2008):
 Come on you are a mature woman, how can you help what you feel? For one you realize that you are more than your feelings, you are blessed with a brain and you decide to use it.....if not .... You are desperate. Desperate for the attention of a man you are sooooo attracted to. He is a jerk, a scum bag married man who is coming on to you where you work and you are currently competing for a sales promotion with him? He tells you after hearing of your opportunity for a promotion that he was going to get you one way or another....are you nuts? Sue him for sexual harassment why don't you, he is behaving inappropriately. Do you even care about your own success, about your own financial future? This guy has it all, he is married, he has the job at the level that you may get a chance to be promoted to, and he has you vieing for his acceptance and his attention. Seriously, do you see what is going on here?
He is a complete asshole, he is using you and hoping to eliminate you as a competitor at his workplace and by making you a conquest, he is proving you weak and getting you on your back means he wins as well. By the way, Married men are never available for a relationship. If you would like to achieve something for yourself at work, why are you entertaining thoughts of having an affair with this married dude just because you are so attracted to him. Start using your brain for a change....step back and see the reality of the situation. What do you think will become of you at your company if you end up sleeping with this guy? What do you think will become of you period, what do you want to gain frojm this besides a sexual conquest?
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