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I never see my best friend - she's always at this farm doing drugs and getting laid!

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Question - (31 January 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 31 January 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, *endorset writes:

My best friends got no respect for herself. She spends most of her time over this farm near her house. Her brother and his mates and loads of other blokes get drugged up over there. She thinks they're all so cool but they're not and i dont think its healthy her looking up to people like that.

Also i know she never says NO, and i think sometimes shes over there to try and get laid. Or shes over there having sex with whoever will do her. Shes not ugly, she just cant be botherd to make herself look nice. When she does her hair and puts on a bit of makeup she looks gorgeous. She just cant be botherd. Yet i know she would like a decent boyfriend.

She never comes to my house anymore because shes at this damned farm. The longest we went without seeing each other was a week. I havnt seen her since new years. She has a live-in job so she can only see me on thursday or some weekends. But she doesnt even bother when shes got time off work. Shes says its because she appreciates her home more. But she isnt at home, shes at this farm around a bunch of druggies.

Whats her problem, and why cant she botherd to make herself look nice. Im SO sorry its so long.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom +, writes (31 January 2007):

kenny agony auntI think you have got a very mature sensible head on your shoulders, its a pitty your friend does not take a leaf out of your book.

What she is doing now at the farm, taking drugs, getting laid, she will no doubt come to regret later on in life, these things always catch up with you in years to come.

Just remember its you friend that has got a problem not you, you should be proud of yourself for standing your ground and not going with her to this farm.

Good luck x

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (31 January 2007):

eyeswideopen agony auntShe sounds like she really has esteem problems which the drugs will only make worse. If you get a chance have a chat with her but don't expect her to change her ways. At least you will have done what you could. Then I would make another friend.

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A female reader, **mandz** United Kingdom +, writes (31 January 2007):

You need to make her sit down with you and talk about how you feel. Pick an evening or time at the weekend when you can have a few hours together just to tall about what's going on and your concern for her. If she dismisses you and you're feelings then are you sure she's actually your best friend? Best friends listen, understand and care.

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