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writes:Hi,About 3 months ago, I recently parted from a long distance relationship of 4 months. I reluctantly agreed to friendship as my partner didn't want a relationship at the time. We sent a "hello" text once a week from then on and a few emails about the weather! I realised that I needed to heal, so cut all contact. Deleted email, text, etc. Now after the 3 months, i'm beginning to receive some phone calls where i answer and the caller hangs up!I do not know if this is her...it could be a crank! However, just asking if anyone else has had the hang up calls themselves or if they have done it after a break up? (As i said i dont know who is calling)all help and experiences appreciated. thank you.
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (30 April 2008):
 LonelyTwo has a point (so does the Sister; I'm not forgetting her). If you have caller ID (which didn't even exist when these calls happened to me), write the number down. I just disagree with Lonely in one point: take the number and DIAL the number. Say that someone's been calling you and you want o know who.
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (30 April 2008):
 I agree with Danielepew. I doubt that after a month, when she was the one that wanted to be friends, that now she is prank calling you. She handled the situation initially as an adult, she holds the power(unfortunately), so there is no need to childishly call you and hang up. This woman knows that she could call you up directly and get back together with you if she wanted, believe me. I can relate to what you are going through, although I never suspected prank calling, but would sometimes look out the window and wonder if my ex was driving past my house. Wierd, I know, but I did it for a couple of months- just periodically going over to the window and peeking out the blinds. It made no real sense, and I eventually stopped. I don't think he ever did drive by, but once you get used to someone being in your life and it suddenly ends, your mind is conditioned to anticipate some sort of interraction with this person, it just takes awhile to catch up to reality. Our relationship was him always driving over to my house b/c of my crazy schedule (that's why I looked out the window for his car), yours was on the phone(you think prank calling), make sense? Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): Do you have a phone feature called "caller ID"? I would take this number and first do a reverse lookup on the internet using the free versions and not the paid versions available.
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reader, Danielepew + ♥, writes (30 April 2008):
This happened to me more than once.
This sort of calls happen often when one person has mixed feelings about a relationship. It's nice to be in the receiving end of those calls. However, they also give you false hope. You think that the person will finally dare to tell you what you want to hear, and that didn't happen to me. In the meantime, I wasted my time.
This thing of people calling you is just people giving you mixed signals. When in doubt, people usually don't take the initiative.
I suggest you move on. Or then, when the phone rings again, make sure it's the "mute caller" and tell the person to make up her mind. That should stop the calling, which means you will move on, or will make her take the step.
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