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writes:I just reconnected with an old friend and he wants more than friendship. When I met him until I last saw him, I was already with my ex-husband. Now that I'm single, he's making a move. I've never seen this side of him and it's freaking me out. I had fun with him and his family when we met up yesterday but when he dropped me off, he mentioned just the two of us going out for dinner or a movie. I felt awkward and don't think I answered him, and he left. He called this afternoon but I didn't answer his call. He did leave a voicemail (funny what interested guys'll do -- I heard him say yesterday that he never leaves messages!) I'm terrible at giving people bad news but want to nip things in the bud now. How do I let him down easy and not ruin our friendship?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (27 June 2010):
 Hmmm it's going to be a tough one and however you tell him, he is probably going to be hurt a little. It would be worse, however to let things develop because you can't get the nerve to say something.
It's probably best to speak to him over the phone, rather than text. Explain to him that you see him as a much needed friend (emphasize the word FRIEND!!)tell him that you wouldn't want anything to spoil the friendship and that you feel that taking things deeper with him would do that.
If he takes it badly, then he's probably going to back off, however he may take the hint and choose to continue being your friend. If he continues his advances,then it's probably time to say goodbye.
Good luck hun xx
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reader, QZ +, writes (27 June 2010):
 Tell him you appreciate the kind words and the friendship the two of you share, but you just aren't ready for a relationship yet.
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