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I need to know how to give her the big 'O'

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Question - (13 December 2007) 6 Answers - (Newest, 16 December 2007)
A male United Kingdom, anonymous writes:

I've been with my girlfriend now for a year. Although we both care for each other, a situation arose last week.

We started having sex about 2 or 3 months ago and have sex 2 or 3 times a week. One day when I had to go out to get something, I came back as I forgot my wallet. I heard her having a conversation with her friend saying that she's never had an orgasm when having sex with me and always fakes it so as to not hurt my feelings.

Of course I'm absolutely heartbroken as I don't know where I've gone wrong during intercourse. I ask her if she wants to try anything new and we do vary it a bit so what am I doing wrong?

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A male reader, Moviefan United States +, writes (16 December 2007):

Moviefan agony auntDo what they say, and ive always told my girlfriend once we do have full on sex not to fake it, it doesnt help me or her faking it. It just hurts more when you fake it then we find out about it. Then if u just told us.

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A female reader, cazzapazza35 United Kingdom +, writes (15 December 2007):

cazzapazza35 agony aunttry stimulating her clitorus with your finger. this does it for me. you can find plenty of advice on many websites telling you where exactly it is on a woman. the rampant rabbit is also a good way of getting her to orgasm. just take your time, ask her to show u where she likes to be touched and stimulated, this can be just as much fun!

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A female reader, chrissy32789 United States +, writes (14 December 2007):

chrissy32789 agony auntDont get all upset about this because some ladies dont have have orgasms during intercourse so why dont you try new things i know you two are new to this but why dont you go to a porn store and buy a vibrating cock ring and put it on while having sex and let her be on top that way not only you will enjoy sex but she will to. and if you cant go out and buy no sex toy then go down on her out befor you have sex that way she can have an orgams and enjoy it... go to and search how to give a female orgams during intercourse!

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A male reader, Diimo United States +, writes (13 December 2007):

Diimo agony auntThis subject is so vast that there are Volumes of books written on this alone. You should seriously invest in one of these, start reading and conclude your research in the bedroom over many experimental weeks.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007):

Well that really sucks that she is faking it.. I know my trust in her would be pretty messed if i overheard that. Have a talk with her and find out, in a sincerely unaccusatory manner, what makes her have an orgasm. Maybe she needs to be on top and in control, but it can be done. Usually if you let the sex be on her terms as far as motion and positioning, she can figure it out and then you can learn from it. Good luck.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007):

i guess you should get some tips from ur bros

well the experienced ones

and all girls are different... some find it alot harder to orgasm than others

maybe she knows what works for her from wanking, most girls do

so sit down and talk about it and SAY to her that she can tell you how to improve and it wont hurt your feelings 9even if it does)

gd luck

p.s most girls find it easier to orgasm from oral than actual sex, sex is usually better for the guy

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