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I need to go to my doctor with a good excuse for not seeing him when I first found out I had this embarassing problem!

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Question - (27 April 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 28 April 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I realised i had genital warts about 8 months ago. They were tiny, but after massive research, i knew what they were. I was obviously devestated.

Over the 8 months they have gotten much bigger. I'm ver embarrassed. I haven't had sex in this long and i don't intend to until i am fully clear.

I need to go to my doctor with a good excuse for not seeing him when i first found them! What do i say?

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A female reader, Lady lilly New Zealand +, writes (28 April 2008):

You poor thing i had this when i was very young with one of my first boyfriends. They will not go away on thier own! You need to go to the out patients clinic at your hospital and they will help you if you don't want to go to your doctor. They will check you out just like a smear. You will them have these dry freezed off. This can be quite sore but it would help if you had i friend to go with you. Please just go as soon as poss, i didn't and i ended up with lots of sbnormal cells on my cervix from this std and had to have a lets operation for that. Go girl go and take care.

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A female reader, angy United Kingdom +, writes (27 April 2008):

hiI sympathise with you and understand how embarrassed you must be feeling, but if you are honest when you talk to your doctor and explain that you have left this so long because of your embarrassment, or whatever reason then I think he will understand how you feel. Afterall, they have probably seen lots of people in similar situations to yourself and probably worse! It really is a case of taking a deep breath and getting the initial appointment over with and you will feel so much better when you have.Otherwise, check out your local hospital for the GUM clinic (google it) its a STD clinic which usually operate an annonymous open clinic and appointments system.  They will put your mind at rest and sort you out.take care and i wish you all the best of luck.

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A female reader, brooke5426 United Kingdom +, writes (27 April 2008):

brooke5426 agony auntGenital warts can go away on their own (although 8 months is a long time so i'm not sure he'd buy it if you told him you were waiting to see if they'd go away by themselves).

Don't be embarrassed they are VERY common. I went with my sister when she had hers removed a few years ago and the nurse at the GUM clinic told her that she sees 2 or 3 people a week who have them.

As far as I can remember the nurse didnt even ask her when she noticed them, so maybe he'll just check them, diagnose them and then remove them but if he does ask when you noticed them just tell him it was a while ago and you have been too embarrassed to go but you have noticed they are getting larger so wanted them checked out. They are trained to deal with patients embarrassment - speaking as someone who did nursing at university we had lecture after lecture after lecture on making patients feel comfortable and understanding how hard and embarrassing it can be for them.

You should definitely go and get them seen to, it won't take long to have them removed and afterwards you'll be so much more comfortable and be really proud of yourself for going.

By the way, i'm sure you already know this as you say you have done a lot of research on them, but the warts are caused by a virus called HPV which you can never get rid of. You can have the warts removed easily but the virus will remain in your system meaning they can return at any time. Some people have a lot of flare ups, some only get the warts once but either way the HPV virus is there permanently.

So you will need to tell any future partners you have HPV as unprotected sex will pass it on regardless of whether you have warts at that time or not.

You should get them removed asap though, there is no point having it on your mind and always thinking about it and knowing they're there when its so easy to have them removed.

Take care

Brooke

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