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writes:I’m finding things really hard at the moment. I go to a boarding school and its hard at times because I feel so lonely and I get very homesick at times. Work is stressing me out big time, there is so much of it. I’ve had a huge argument with one of my friends and we are no longer speaking and I think our friendship is over – which hurts of course it hurts, but she has let me down too badly this time. Everything seems so hard at the moment, even doing things that I love can occasionally be an effort. At times its all I can do not to sit in my room and cry and cry. I was bullied last year, not physically but mentally (by people who I thought were originally my good friends) and I’m wondering if I have really got over that, and maybe its why I’m finding things so hard. I don’t know. I was back on track with everything for a while but now for no reason I can see, but having already fallen off my ladder and hit the ground hard, I don’t want to fall off again…any advice on how to make sure I can keep climbing? I’m going to muster all the strength and courage I have and keep plodding along…I know that once a door closes a window opens….I just need to find that window…but I don’t know how…
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): Therapy helps. Find someone at your school who does it, say a counselor, etc. It can be completely confidential. There are good therapists and bad therapists out there. If there is one you don't like, find another one. A person talks to you for about an hour a week and is there for you to vent out your frustrations. This person can help you find better ways to cope as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): I found myself in your shoes many times and it took me 30 years to understand why. What it comes down to is that we all need God in our lives. Bad things are going to happen in our lives, it's inevidible, but when you have God in your life, it makes things easier to deal with. He lifts our spirits, he fills that empty void,he gives us a purpose. It used to annoy me when people would preach about God and how he makes life better. I would kind of shrug it off because I was more of a visible person, I had to see it to believe it. Well, through the years I had been through some things that were pretty hard to deal with, I was at my breaking point, I wanted to give up, but I knew I had to keep "plodding along" because I have children who need me. One of my close friends recommended going to Church and REALLY getting to know GOD, at that point I thougt "why not, what have I got to lose". It has completely changed my life. If you are not religious I'm not asking you to be, just get to know God, have a relationship with him and watch and see how your life changes, you will not be disappointed. I go to a non-denominational Church, there is no specific religion, no specific rituals you must perform, it's just you and God. You're still young, you have the rest of your life to be blessed and live in his graces. I wish you the best of luck and God bless you.
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