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anonymous
writes:Ive been dating my girl friend for about 2 months now.. im 16 shes 17. she's a virgin and ive only slept with one girl. she swears she's ready to have sex, but i'm not sure how to do this since its her first time, my ex basicaly had to "put it in her self" and never really explained it or showed me too well.. im worried about her bleeding, and to make sure its perfect for her and things like that can any one give me a few tips and a lil info please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): i think you should first ask her if she's ready to have sex. if she is then you just wait for it to happen. Then when the time is right, just go for it. Not right then and there but you know what i mean. you should first let her know she's safe and comfortable with you then just be gentle. thats all
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reader, agonyunclechris  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 take your time , go with the flow , be intemate and play , dont just go mad and put it straight in her
women like excitement , and intemacy
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reader, Kept Women +, writes (21 October 2007):
 Relax... Just take it very slow and let her be on top and let her do the moving, she's not going to hurt herself she will not bleed like crazy, I hardly bled at all but we did have a towel under us just in case!
Also it's ok if she has to put it in.. Until you have the same partner for a while them things don't just fall in place..
Slow and gentle.... That's the best...
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reader, MonDoc  +, writes (18 October 2007):
For women, it's mostly about enjoying the experience of intimacy & excitement of it all, not just the in-out [penetration] of the sex itself.
Suggestions:
1] Don't start the actual sex too soon. Make the whole experience last. Make it about her: focus a lot of time and attention on the non-sexual (but erogenous) parts of her -- her ears, neck, shoulders, breasts, stomach, legs & feet (you can just use your fingers on feet if that grosses you out). By all this I mean kissing, nuzzling, nibbling, licking.
2] You could try giving her a massage first --- that'll relax her & turn her on a lot. She'll be undressed and feeling you touching her all over without actual sex & that'll ensure she's very ready.
3] Don't be disappointed if she doesn't have an orgasm first time --- you're going to learn about each other's bodies over time & you'll figure out how to give her one. What I'd suggest though is that you do the massage, do the erogenous areas (kissing, nibbling, licking etc..) as you're going along with the massage, THEN stimulate her (with your hand or mouth) at some point during the massage and see if she orgasms that way, and then FINALLY actually start sex (penetration).
Hope this helps. Have a good time (AND BE SAFE!!)
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reader, kitty cat +, writes (18 October 2007):
make sure you are in a relaxed environment and she is completely at ease. she may bleed even if she is comfortable and relaxed or not but there is a higher change of her bleeding if she is not totaly relaxed. make sure you take it slowly and put some effort into forplay, stroking her kissing her ect as this will heightern her excitement and yours and make it more enjoyable for you both.
i lost my virginity to a virgin, neither of us had any idea what we were doing but trust me, sex is perfectly natural and if you are naked lying on top of her it will come to you perfectly naturally trust me. Just relax and have fun it wil be a great experience for you both that can only get better with practice!
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