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36-40,
*har02
writes:Ok, I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now. We first met each other in high school, about 11yrs ago and got reacquainted on FB a few months ago. Everything was going well in the beginning, but lately, everything he does just seem to irritate me! I'm not a very touchy-feely person and that's all he wants to do, is touch me! He gropes me constantly and I especially when we're out in public. A peck or 2 is fine, but I don't want to be making out with someone or having him grope my butt and breasts in public. Its disrespectful in my opinion. I've told him beforehand to stop touching me so much, he laughs and continues to do so. Another thing is, I think we hang out too much. I go to school part-time and work full-time, so I'm pretty beat. But he constantly wants to come over and hang out. I tell him I have homework or that I'm just plain tired, but he doesn't seem to get it. I like him, (despite all my complaints) but how can I get my point across to him? HELP!!!
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reader, Love-Wisely +, writes (7 November 2010):
 On his part these are clear signs of: insecurity & immaturity. 2-months into a relationship? This "clingy" behavior is especially inappropriate.
Unless you draw a clear line in the sand, and enforce it at all times, he will be all over you like glue. These are serious warning signs in my book. If you still want to give him a chance, I agree with Aunt Honesty's advise. Make a point to be unavailable 3-days a week or more.
Communicate you are "tired" or "busy" on these days. If he freaks out more than once by: calling or texting like crazy, driving past your house, etc. dump him.
It won't be worth the trouble in the long run...
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reader, CandyKins +, writes (7 November 2010):
 You already told him and he still continued. So the best thing to do is ignore him. He'll question this and say you're ignoring him until he stops what's he's doing.
he'll have to understand it that way. x
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Dear Anom,
I think you tell him and make it completely clear how you feel. Let him understand you are not keen to display attention in public and if If he does respect you he will take you seriously otherwise there is no point in being with someone who irritates you.
It seems here you are with someone who doesnt listen or share your views and a relationship doesnt work out this way. there have to be some compromise.
Goodluck
Kelly
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 I agree with you here, it is totally disrespectful off him to grope you in public and you shouldnt need to put up with this, ok so you have tried talking to him and its obviously not working so next time he does it walk away from him and if he tries talking to you ignore him and go home dont answer your door or your phone until the next day and tell him that it makes you feel cheap when he grabs you disrespectfully and you are not going to allow it anymore, hopefully he will get the point if not keep repeating this until he does.
As for some time on your own which we all need after a long day at work we just want to curl up on the couch and relax you need time on your own every so often, as does everybody else it is healthy, so next time you need some alone time just tell him you dont want to meet him as you are tired and if he lands over dont answer the door.
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